Big fights

[rakiaf22]

So, me and my gf has been together for almost a year now. Within this year we have gotten into several fights. It all started with me, being drunk one night and choking her until her face turned purple. I have since, tried my best to make up for that, but now when she's drunk, she goes crazy on me and I have no choice, but to defend myself. I don't want to go over all the fights but just one night ago, she went crazy. I can't lie. I was having my issues that night to, but I didn't hit her. Next thing you know she's hitting me in my face and pulling my hair, while I'm screaming at her to stop. I tried pushing her against the wall. I mean slamming her. I finally get her off of me. Scream at her that I don't want to fight! But at that point it's like, she doesn't give a ****. She hit me and starts pulling my hair again. Then biting! She bit into my finger until it bleed. And she kept biting harder and harder. I had to punch her in her face, more than once to get her off.... I know this relationship isn't healthy. I don't even think we should be together. But what can do??? What can I do. I love her very much. And until things start to change I'm going to be nervous of this relationship.

[adele_expecting_third_child]

If you love each other as much as you say then you should both go your separate ways and stop hurting each other and making your lives a misery. Relationships are meant to be happy and loving. Yeah everyone argues but there comes a time when you realise that it's gone too far.

[RockRose]

rakia,  are  you a woman?

If so,  unfair as it is,  you probably stand a better chance with the law than if you were a man in a fight with a woman.  If you're a woman and she assaults you and you defend yourself it's likely you won't have charges filed against you.  

[rakiaf22]

Idk, I want to leave. And I've tried before. Each time feels like she took my heart with her. I can't think straight. I cry and am a reck. I want to make things work. And getting help isn't as easy as must people think. I can't afford insurance, I've been to places that are based on income, and even that turns out to be to much. I've tried groups, church, seeing a councilor at my school. It's not like I've done nothing but fight. There is something wrong with me, I need help. I'm losing my grip on the world and can't seem to tell what's real anymore.  

[rakiaf22]

She's my best friend. Someone I've known for five years. I don't want to fight. And she told me that she wouldn't drink again. It's hard to leave someone you've been with and have known for some long and I'm sure you guys know and can understand that.

[AnnieBrooke]

What do you 'love' her for, someone to hit and be hit by?  In what way is that love?  Please see a therapist if you cannot get out of the relationship.

[margypops]

Yes this is an abusive relationship, you should go your seperate ways before it becomes a conviction for domestic violence

[RockRose]

Rakia,  I think you need to sever ties with this woman.

Before you know it,  you're going to have a felony conviction for domestic battery even though you're just defending yourself.

This could ruin your life.