is this love or not

[jessiplus3]

Hi ppl. So I'm 19 and 8 months pregnant w my third kid I am married my husband is 21. He has also been hitting me chocking kicking me n he recently got a shot gun n told me one night he would kill me in my sleep n held it to my head he keeps brass knuckles in the house n has been calling my four year old son nasty names like ***** and ******.he trips and pushes him around all the time n laughs it off. My question is a month ago I left him finally he was very controlling and.I was not allowed to wear certain close or makeup and wasn't allowed out side I pressed charges and me n the kids r living w my mom but now he sirry and wants his family back and really telling me everything I want to hear. I'm scared if I dnt get some help or advice ima go back I always go back n fourth but I think if I go back thia time he will kill me cuz now he mad I got the cops involved but why do I still get suckered in by his charm that I knoe is a lie what do I do?

[margypops]

Normal to feel nervous of any abuser, you will be stronger next time ..Stay away from him and before you go make notes of what you are going to say that will help you .god luck let us know what happens ..

[jessiplus3]

I just got back from court today I was nervous to testify against him n I froze but for now all they did was put him on house arrest he lied his butt off and got the brst lawyer around here I didn't have anyone but the prospector who barley said a word but there's still more charges pending. So next time I will talk more instead of being afraid iv never spoke against him before n all he did was lie. Thank you everyone I am taking everyones advice and it helped greatly

[margypops]

There you have it jessie the opinions of three, it would be good to heed our advice ..I think you will be glad you did ...best of Luck

[Nighthawk61]

In answer to your question IS THIS LOVE OR NOT? No this is not love by a long long shot...... this is so far from real love. Something happened to this person that made him INCAPABLE OF LOVE.

[Nighthawk61]

You are a mother, you don't have the luxury of going back because he is "acting charming".  If you need to be charmed, then get yourself in the position to go ut on a date.  This is NOT the only man in the world for you.   You and your kids need a real man in your life, and in order to make that happen, you have to get a restraining order and make sure that he keeps away from your children. Thank God he doesn't have visitation with your kids. Please listen, you're kids deserve to have one parent that cares about them and makes them their FIRST PRIORITY. My first marriage was to a man who punched and choked me and threatened my life. I have since married a man who loves me and my child. Don't be afraid that you will never meet a good man. You can and will if you try to keep yourself away from this man long enough!! If you don't think that you can do this for yourself, then YOU MUST do this for your children.  This animal sounds like he should be locked up somewhere. He should be charged for "Threatening Death" and put in jail.

[margypops]

Its in your hands ..why would you put your children through this, abuse like this with them witnessing it ,will stay with them for ever .I suggest you take out a restraining order and don't go near him again ..