How do I help my heroin addict boyfriend before he ends up dead or ruining us?

[Lynn3133]

I am currently in a relationship with a man that has a severe heroin and opiate addiction among other addictions. I am pregnant with his child, 17 weeks now and his addiction has me afraid he will die. I am also worried about our financial situation because he tends to put his addictions before myself and our bills etc... For some stupid reason I have a hard time telling him no when he asks for money and is withdrawing...I'm quickly becoming in debt and he doesn't seem to care at all and gets angry when I attempt to talk to him about treatment and most of all that we have bills that I am getting behind on... I do love him but I also have children and another on the way. I am so worried and stressed and very depressed. Also I am disapointed in myself for letting this problem escalate I feel stupid and taken advantage of by him. I am afraid that my financially stability is going to affect my children's lives because obviously it will and I am so lost... I have nobody to turn to my family would completely flip out naturally and I can't say I dont agree that they would be concerned and it's just becoming a nightmare.

[Nighthawk61]

You need to quickly make an appointment to talk to an Addictions Therapist They can help you to deal with what you need to do next. Have no fear. What you're experiencing with your husband is happening all over the country and the world. The opiate problem is epidemic. Doctors are only now being trained as to the effects of the drugs they've been giving out like candy. The good news is that there's plenty of help for both you, your family and your spouse. I could go on and on explaining what's next for you, but it's better honestly that you go and talk to an Addictions Therapist near you, and get the ball rolling. Please private message me (hit name and send a message) if you want to have a buddy throughout this process. I think it would help you to have a friend that has gone through the process of addiction and also, with a spouse that is an addict. I got together with my husband 17 years ago, and we both quit doing drugs and alcohol at that time. We told each other, that if anyone relapsed, either him or I , we would have to take a Relapse Prevention program at the Rehab. He did, and he went. Since then , we've both been clean and sober and enjoying our life, our retirement, and our children with no substance abuse. Rehab works, Relapse happens, and then Rehab works again. Nothing else but rehab worked for either of us. I'm here if you could use a friend right now that knows their way around addiction. Liz