Hi there, my husband relapsed (drugs/alcohol) early on in our relationship and cheated ... went to a 90 day rehab and has been clean and sober since. We've been clean and sober together for 17 years now. Sobriety can happen if a person is "willing to go to any lengths" to achieve their sobriety. I had to have my husband committed to a Psychiatric ward, and put on meds for Paranoid Schizophrenia prior to a 90 day drug rehab. Had he not been willing to do that, i would definitely have left him. No question about it. I, incidentally, am also a gratefully recovering addict (which is why i knew exactly how to handle his relapse.). I'm here to talk privately if you feel the need. All the best.
I do have a friend and tjey had something like urs happen..He went to rehab and they did start fresh and their marriage is stronger than ever now and it has been almost 11 yrs..But the main thing is u and him need to decide if ur gonna start fresh then leave the past in the past,dont bring it up when yall have arguments or get mad at each other,always put ur family first but make time for each other..If u cant do them things she says then it will never work.best of luck