What else can I do when addict spouse won't get help?

[PinkStars07]

Hey all.  Long story short, for almost four years my husband has been a prescription pill addict.  I had my issues as well but not to his level.  After his mom passed away suddenly in 2013, he became very dependent on Vicodin, Norco, oxy you name it.  At first we were fine, still a happy marriage, we've been together since 1998 got married in 2008 and had a daughter in 2012.  I had the dream, we were perfect.  Cut to 2014 and he starts stealing my pills for my back pain.  Promises it won't happen again yet of course it did.  Same nonesesnse in 2015 and then in 2016, he stated stealing from my parents.  I have cried and screamed and begged him to stop to get help I have told him I want to leave but tells me he still wants this marriage.  I can't trust him anymore.  And about 20 minutes ago I found a pill bottle with morphine pills in it.  I'm scared to death he'll be dead one day from this.  I've told him that and all I get is whatever.  I basically know my answer but I'm just looking for the answers as to why our marriage and vows and our daughter aren't good enough.  My fleece hasn't been as white snow, believe me.  I get cravings here and there for a norco but I've come to realize my daughter means more to me so I stopped.  Any answers on to why nothing will wake him up would be helpful.  I pretty much know if I divorce him, he still won't care.

[atthebeach]

Sorry I didn't see your question earlier.
Congratulations on your clean time.

What did it take you to realize you needed to get clean?
Your husband obviously hasn't gotten there yet.

You have discovered that the begging, crying and yelling hasn't helped. He needs to come to terms with his addiction on his own.
Have you been to Al-anon?
It is a support group for the loved ones of addicts.

Do you attend meetings to help prevent your relapse?
You have to detach yourself emotionally from your husband . You can not live in his addiction. This is hard to do. I have been there. He will not get clean until he sick and tired of his addiction.
There is always hope. Keep the faith.
Sending support, encouragement and prayers.
Debbie

[PinkStars07]

Hi Debbie.  It was mainly for my daughter.  I didn't want her to be without me.  He won't go to meetings or therapy because he is in complete denial.  It's so frustrating.  He's not the man I married.  I keep holding out hope that it will change and he will realize he has a problem but I'm afraid he's too far gone.  My head and my heart are in a constant battle on to leave or not.  I just feel so hopeless and so let down.

[PinkStars07]

Forgot to add that when he is on them he acts like how he used to, loving husband like.  I always thought if you were an addict you would be more withdrawn, but that's how he is without the.  And that's how I can tell when he's on something.