Living With an Addict Forum~

[dominosarah]

http://www.medhelp.org/forums/Addiction-Living-with-an-Addict/show/1176

This forum was started due to the increase of questions posted on the SA forum.  It is picking up with many family members looking for help.  atthebeach and i are CO-CL's there.  Deb brings great caring advice to the ones who post as she is a family member affected by addiction.  I bring the addiction side to the mix.  We can always use extra voices on that site so i wanted to make everyone aware of that forum.  We sometimes get so involved with our own issues that we forget our family members are also affected.  Check it out if you have some extra time~

[dominosarah]

I have found that forum to be very healing for me.  At first it was hard to write those brutal truths as it was in black and white in front of me.  It was hard to read the words from the family as i could feel their pain and it made me think of my family and what they went thru.  I have faced alot on that forum, some of which i had placed way back in the closet.  You are doing fine as you speak from the heart and that is never wrong~

[atthebeach]

tony just as on the SA forum we share our experiences, our advice, support, encourage and tell them like it is in love and concern for them and their loved ones.
many times it is very hard for loved ones to hear that they are not helping their loved ones, but are essentially enabling them. many are in denial or are very naïve to their loved ones addiction.

I know ten years ago me being told to leave or kick my husband out would have fell on deaf ears. 5 years later was a different story.
many post and never come back, just as on this forum. they haven't been beat down enough yet.

you are giving them an insight into the mind of their addicted loved ones.
that is a good thing, as many (and I can relate) feel we are banging our heads against to wall trying to understand why or what they are thinking and feeling.

thank you, your responses have been great. thanks for taking the time
to go over there. it is appreciated.
Debbie

[weaver71]

Debbie, Sara, everyone, I am posting on the Living with an Addict Forum, please guide me, if I am not on track. It feels weird, as an addict, to point fingers at myself. I don't mind, I'm not sure if I make sense to a family member. I use what my family says and my point of view to post. I really think this is a good idea, yet I am very uncertain of my ability to help. Keep an eye on me, if you would. My confidence will grow, I just need reassurance for awhile. Thanx.

[atthebeach]

thanks for posting this sarah.
the forum has seen an increase in activity lately with lots of family members
seeking support and advice.
as on the SA forum many come with no hope for their loved ones.
if those who are clean could give a word and offer hope that there
is healing after addiction, it would be much appreciated.
looking forward to the support from you all.
Debbie

[dominosarah]

Thank you everyone!

Internet company is coming to check things out here.  Better get this sent before it goes down again!!

[nursegirl6572]

Bump!

[castaway1]

Thanks for the reminder Sarah. You are awesome as always.

[nursegirl6572]

Great reminder!  I try to post there when I can....as my experiences are as a loved one of an addict, but the input from you guys is priceless to people trying to understand what their loved one goes through.  

It's a catch 22, because those people's posts get more attention here, just because it is naturally more busy, but this is also one of the busiest forums on MH, so I understand the need to keep the organization too.

This is great sarah...thanks!!

[OpenMind24hours]

I've been on there a few times, especially if I see recent posts. We will get family and loved ones posting here on this forum. Most of the threads then get bumped to Living With. Today I've been over on the Alcoholism forum the entire time I've been on. There's been a couple of new people posting over there.

[dominosarah]

I have been extremely busy myself not to mention computer issues so i need to get back over there too.

I have found that so many enable others and they dont even know it.  That is where we come in to play.  Most of them feel they are responsible for their loved ones addiction.  That is also where we come into play.  We have had some wonderful success stories over there and the friendships formed is so awesome!  Thanks everyone!!

[clean_in_ks]

Thanks for the reminder, Sara.  Seems like I posted there off and on for a bit and then I guess I kinda spaced it out.  I live a life surrounded by other addicts and am also an addict myself.....so BOTH issues are HUGE for me.  In my immediate family alone right now, we have 4 newly in recovery...well 3 and one MIA.  So, I'll be sure to come hang out more...appreciate the post, Sara~    

[weaver71]

I'm glad that forum is picking up and want to encourage it's growth, thanks Sara.

[VICourageous]

Yes Indeed Sarah, I have been going over there myself lately. Also over to the Relationship community.. I also like to go over to the Social Form. The Social Form is good place for us to talk and share some story's. Or even just have some chit-chat time with each other. There is alot of areas on here that need our experiences and support for sure.  Like A-Z we have in Community's.
Thanks
Bless us ALL!!

[bama88]

I agree. We forget about this one.

[ricart70]

I will Sarah ty   Hope you are having a good day friend ;)