Lortab Addiction- husband and wife

[themrs]

Hi, My husband and I are both addicted to Lortab.  This has been going on for about a year and a half..  This is starting to cause problems between us and we know it is just the addiction. We have always been so happy. We have both agreed that we would stop. Are there any suggestions of how to start the process together? He is having more problems with the withdrawal process than I am having.

Thanks in advance..

[wayway1414]

Awwwwwwww......that was such a sweet post! It really was! Makes me feel a little sad too, cause while i had such a serious addiction, my man never really understood it. He never really thought it was as bad as it was, because the medication was doctor prescribed........some of it! lol. But towards the end, he started to enjoy the little happy pills.....sometimes too much! And i know if i kept them around, in the end he would have become an addicted. Also, i don't think that he woould have stuck to the typical vicodin/Norco pills.....he would have went to Oxy's than to herion! I know this because when he does something, he does it all the way!!!!!!!!

[Motherof2addicts]

Thank you for your response.  Congratulation on your own sobriety!  The reminder that there is hope helps.  I know I can not "fix" them.  Hopefully they will see light.

[drmwvrjean]

i am so sorry that you are going through this!!  it sounds like your family has been through a lot!!  how long have your daughter and son-in-law been addicted?!?  i am sorry to say, but your daughter and son-in-law are not going to change unless THEY want the change.  all you can do is help out your grandkids as best you can.  there are no magic words or cures that are going to work for their addiction....the best love in situations like this is tough love, in my opinion.  do not enable them to keep up their behavior!!  i know in my personal experience, that when they threatened me with my kids, that was it...no more pills for me.  but i also know with my step-mom's addiction we had to completely walk out of her life....and i mean ALL of us for her to see the light, and that even took awhile for her to see what we trying to do....we wanted to be there for her but we couldn't stand by and enable her to destroy her life and the lives of those she loved.  most times you have to hit "rock bottom" in order to change....and that rock bottom is different for each individual.  i know with my step-mom i often wondered how much more she would have to lose in order to "wake up and smell the coffee"  she lost much like your daughter and son-in-law....her home, her vehicles, her reputation and her family.  but there is hope!!!  i have been off pain pills for 9 months now and my step-mom has been clean and sober for 11 yrs.  hang in there!!  just love those grandbabies to the best of your ability!!  please keep posting....this site is a wonderful source of support!!  i wish you the best and God bless xxxxxx

[Motherof2addicts]

I need help/advice.  I have a 30 year old daughter and son in law who are both addicted to Lortab.  They have lost their home, vehicle and are on the verge of losing their 3 children.  I have made room for them in trying to help take care of my grandchildren.  What can I do to help them straigten themselves out.......they are breaking my heart and I do not know what to do.

[shelby74]

Hi there,

I just wanted to congratulate you on your clean time!

My husband and I have been addicts for well over a decade now.  God has it been that long?  I have been clean for over a week now, I have tried this so many times before but I am not giving up.  My husband is still actively using and it is making it hard for me.  I always know the pills are in the house and I have broken down many, many times to use because of that.  He has the doc "friend" who prescribes the pills and I have taken advantage of that for the longest time.  As my usage increased, my husband started hiding the pills, once he figured out there was not way he could be taking 30 a day on his own.  He had an unlimited supply for a very long time.  His doc friend has cut his supply by half now and so I would go through the w/d's over and over again.  Using for this long has changed both of us.  I am totally withdrawn from everyone I care about.  I did not even want to talk to my family on Christmas (I was in heavy withdrawal's but still).  My relationship with my Mom is practically non-existent at this point.  My brother and his wife are having their first child and I could have cared less.  Well actually, I have moments when I cared but for me the MOST important thing was getting the pills.  I also just found out my husband's Mom is in the hospital, she had a mild heart attack.  The checked her heat and it is slightly enlarged.  She had cancer before and they think it is back.  She had lung cancer about 15 years ago, I pray that it is not that.  I have missed out on having a relationship with her because the whole time I have known her practically I have been actively using.  So much time wasted.  I am not sure what the story of my point is but please learn from me, do not waste another second of your lives on drugs.  Before you know it, a decade will pass and you will destroy so many of your relationships.  You will miss out on so much.  I know the drugs have changed me, I hope it is not permanent and I hope I start to feel again (and I am not talking post withdrawal feelings but the real stuff).  I wanted to tell you my story in hopes that it will help you, I can't stand the thought of anyone going through what I have, please stay strong and get outside help or post here as often as you can.  My biggest slips is when I am not posting here.  I wish you all the best!

shel

[msinsane]

CONGRAT ON DAY 10 keep up the good work msinsane

[themrs]

I know... Liscamdave's story really touched me as well. She inspired me to start this process and keep it up. I hope she knows what an inspiration she is to all of us and how she has touched all of us.


themrs

[littldeb]

I have seen you post here since I showed up on the forum a few months ago, but I never knew this about your husband and my heart really goes out to you. My husband has struggled with these ugly pills for the past two years and I have always had this fear of finding him like that.....it drives me nuts.  I wake up at night to make sure he is breathing.  I can't imagine life without him and I'm sure this has been so difficult for you. He has 14 days clean today but the depression is overwhelming so that fear is still so real. I never know from day to day whether to give him space or talk to him...it's just a tough road but so worth traveling.
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.  I've seen your postings before and it seems you are on the right track with your recovery.  That is awesome.  Please keep it up and know that you are in my prayers.
hugs,
deb

[ruby441]

GOD!!! I read your story & if that doesn't make all of us addicts think & change our lives....then I don't know. May God bless you, keep you clean, strong & safe & bring love into your life in massive quantities.
Love, love, love, love, love!!!!

ruby441

[themrs]

Yeah, I just keep thinking if I relapse, I will have to start this whole process over. And I think about how guilty I will feel. I finally do not feel ashamed of who I am. I feel like the real me.

themrs

[GoingToMakeIt]

Be strong. To me there is one common thread here, it is the more times you relapse, the harder it is. That doesn't mean if you relapse, you won't make it. Keep on posting.

[themrs]

Thank you so much!!
Yeah last night the cravings were starting to really get to me. But I stayed strong and made it through another day. Thanks again for your kind words and support.
It means the world to me :)
themrs

[GoingToMakeIt]

This is such Great news! Congratulations! I think the thing I am cherishing the most is the clear mind. Cravings slowly taper off. I don't think they ever really go away.But they are manageable.
I love hearing this kind of a post. Keep up the good work. Make decisions now about how you will handle the various temptations. Planning ahead helps.
Proud of you. What a wonderful Christmas gift you have given each other! Happy New Year!

[themrs]

Update.
I am starting Day 8. My husband and I both are feeling great, besides the cravings. I have a clear head and it has been a long time since I have had a clear head. Good Luck to Everyone. I could not have made it this far without you all.
themrs

[themrs]

I am starting Day 5 now. I am not sick. Just lazy. My husband is really keeping to himself and sleeping alot. I am very emotional and wanting to get out of the house.  We had the chance to get pills tonight and turned it down. I am so proud of myself. Because, it sounded SO good to get them. I kept thinking if I had them I wouldnt be so emotional and lazy, I would be happy and have energy. But I didnt do it. But I just kept thinking about all your kind words and advice and it inspired me to stay strong. Please know that each and every one of you are helping me with this. Thank you!!
themrs

[themrs]

Ok day 1 is over. We made it without them. Hopefully tomorrow will be another good day.

[themrs]

Thank you all so much! It is day one and all I can do is think about them. We have been using for about a year and a half. I dont think it will work for us to try the tapering. We have did that before and it only led to more using. Thank you all again and I will keep you updated.

[GoingToMakeIt]

Welcome to the forum. Like your screen name. :) Space! Give each other space. The whole w/d thing is a drawn out process. There are bumps in the road. There are moments of elation, clarity of mind, happiness. There is depression and tiredness. Our bodies are recouping. It takes time. Most here are helped with vitamins and supplements. The Thomas recipe was mentioned (I have it in my journals) because it works for most people. It too is a trial & error process to fine tune it to your own body's needs.
You didn't tell us how much and how long you both have been using?
There are two ways to quit. Cold Turkey or tapering. Tapering is easier on the body having less w/d symptoms. C/T is quick but hard. If you have the ability and self control to slowly regulate a tapering dose you will be off of these after awhile. If you don't have the self control then c/t it. Throw your pills away and plan on 4 really bad days. Then each day afterwards you will slowly start to feel better.
Good Luck!

[liscamdave]

I can tell you this, please try to take the time to read my story, it is on my profile. I will give you a short version now. My name is Lisa, I have been an addict for almost 4 years. I too, started taking Percocets with my then fiance. We took them recreationally for the first year, every now and then. Then it turned into everyday, then into about 30-40 pills a day, EACH. We were then introduced to Oxy Contin and began eating anywhere from 10-15 80'mg pills a day each. I lost my husband to an overdose 8 months after we were married. I was the one that found him dead. I will carry this nightmare with  me evereday until the lord takes me. So, please, please, please...try to get some help. It is hard enough to battle addiction alone, to have to try to w.d two people is the hardest thing my husband and I ever had to do. It changed everything about us. We became miserable, and only were happy when we had pills. We were in w.d almost once a week because we couldn't afford to continue to buy pills everyday. We spent all of our savings on these pills, which were $40.00 a peice and we were both eating almost 10 a day. We always fought and it was a nightmare. We both became different people and then I lost him. Please don't let these pills take your life away too. Stop it before they do. Please, love your husband and be there for him as he needs to do for you. You can fight this together, and be that much stronger, happier and in love when you win. It can be done. I wish you both luck. Take Care....Lisa

[JP123]

YOUR COURAGE KICKS *** JUST REMEMBER DO THIS TOGETHER PERIOD .

[themrs]

Thank you so much! Talking to you tonight has got me excited for a new beginning.

[uvlvrebel]

just pm me if you wanna talk tonight, ok?  that RLS will go away... for me it left after about 12-14 days.  and my habit had been since 2003. good luck!

[themrs]

Yes, we are both starting over again tomorrow. Its strange because I have never had a problem sleeping before and we have both been having problems with RLS. But right now I am out for Christmas break so I have the time to do this and not have to worry about it causing problems in my daily life.  Thanks again

[uvlvrebel]

the insomnia thing is still pretty prevalent here too.  same issue: last night i started to go to bed, was awakened (hmmm) and got up for an hour (12:30 am) then tossed/turned for hours.  we have a sleeping medicine in the cupboard, but it makes us feel so groggy the next am, plus we thought it might just be prolonging nature's course.  so r you both gonna start c/t tomorrow again?