Need Your Support

[LarrynMaya]

Sorry but this is not a question...just a desperate cry for support and advice...we have not started our quit date as of yet but are planning to REALLY do it starting this Sunday! We are scared. Somehow your words here are so very comforting and today is just one of those days we could BOTH use some comfort to our souls. God how do u beat this??? I mean do u just have to suck it up and tough out the pain of w/d?? I think we are at that point and its just plain scary. I don't suppose there's much more advice to be given as you have all given that of yourselves so graciously. I guess its just fear setting in...like being on a roller coaster that's about to crest that monster first hill...only there is no thrill in this fear...at least not for us. Anyway thank you all once again and we welcome...no we actually need some words of encouragement and comfort. Thank you so very very much???
L&M

[Xcalibure]

Someone said it best before, the fear of WD is often way worse in our minds then the actual event.  I remember when I got my first tattoo (you'll see where I'm going in a second) I was freaked out.  Everyone said how bad it hurt and I was nervous until the artist touched needle to skin and then was puzzled.  It wasn't that bad at all.  To bring it around, WD was the same for me.  I heard horror stories, been there a few times myself, and somehow my brain had made it this unimaginable hell when the reality was I felt like a had the flu for a few days.  All these things are your mind's way of justifying continued use.  Sadly this is the bigger fight as the physical symptoms subside pretty quickly, the mental games go on for longer.  Stay strong and after day 3 or 4 look at NA or AA for meetings and a sponsor.  It helps greatly to have someone to answer to and to call anytime you feel like using.  Good luck to you and keep posting us here, these people really do care and will help.

[DaleGirl]

Go to detox inpatient, some will let you in together, some you will have to enter seperatly. If that is not possible you got to get to some meetings after the first week. In the meantime I suggest melatonin to help with sleep, plenty of vitamins, gatorade half water. Sometimes sweet things to eat can help. LOts of comforting movies for me watching them over and over helped. Get down on them knees and ask God for help when you think you cant he will reach down and make it so you can. Lean on eachother for support and dont let eachother out the dooor without a bottom line, Good Luck because doing it on your own and not inpatient is possible but hard, I never could but maybe you can. So tell yourslef over and over it wont kill you, but if you go back out there, that will.

[ariley13]

Hi there! Yes, we are all here for you to support and encourage you through this. I agree with IBKleen. It's so easy to push back our quit date. There are always excuses to do that. You HAVE to stick to your guns and follow the plan come hell or high water! Otherwise you will just keep pushing it back forever and never quit. As far as the detox and withdrawl symptoms go, we hype them up to mythic proportions in our minds. It's rough, but so doable. A week or 2 of physical symptoms and then you will have your lives back. I have a really bad stomach virus right now and it is just like detox all over again. Try to think of it like that. You have a really nasty bug, and you will get through it. Here's a quote from another gal on here regarding detox and withdrawls...' You can't go over it, under it, or around it. You have to go through it'. We all had to go through it. You both will too and will come out stronger and better on the other side. We will be here cheering you along. Please take care and hang in there.

[Wildewoman]

Welcome back!!

I quit for three days - then used for 2 then just did it!!

Planning is pretty important. So have Pepto, Gatorade. epsom salts (for hot baths)

Also have food - enough for 6-7 days. Soda crackers, soups, etc.

Then just DO IT!! I also started a journal - so I could go back to day 2-3 to see how bad things were - at day # 12 (sounds so long - huh?) I am pretty much done with the physical WD.

Now the mental . . . . . .that's another thread!! lol

[ActingBrandNew]

Detox is bad but it seems like many folks work themselves up over the thoughts of how bad it will be. In all reality, its very doable. You will be alright but you have to take that step and get it started. Fear is normal but dont let it overwhelm you and control your actions. You can do this...no doubt! Don't get caught in your own head because you will try to think yourself out of it. I hope you keep your Sunday date and post throughout your journey. Life is a million times better clean and no longer a slave to opiates.

[BarbRTR]

Glad to see you back. Often times, the fear of WD is worse than the WD itself.

A few questions. Do you all have kids? Do you have any family members that you can enlist help, with both of you CTing at once?

Seems you really want to quit.  Could you talk to a Dr? There are a few things that can be RXd to help, but bottom line is yes, you must go through wds. But again, the fear can be worse than the detox. Also the fear of the unknown is a paralyzing fear. Fear of failing too. But you'll never know till you try.
As long as you have no underlying health problems, WDs won't kill you. Continuing to use will.

You both want to quit, you have posted a couple times.
What has drugs taken from you? Write it out. Make it your worse enemy. Then defeat your enemy. You can. And you'll feel so much better. Don't let H win!

Anyway, we can help you through it. But what's home situation with kids/family?

[IBKleen]

I't good to see you still here but it is hard for me to see you pushing the quit date again. It concerns me that the day for both of you will not come. If you are struggling with a quit date then are going to have a hard time with the detox. The detox is not going to kill you but the drugs will. So pick a date and stick to it.

You both need to be ready. You need to want a better life. You need to be sick and tired of being sick and tired. When you are there you will quit.

Stick around please and talk with the members here. Everyone is supporting you. You are both in my prayers.