Day 7 Cold Turkey

[adviceforwife]

ok my hubby is on day 7 cold turkey. Legs still sore but all in all we are doing great. His wanting to eat has returned.

I asked him last night, did he remember a normal day before he started taking the pills and he said no.

When i think back at all the signs i missed and how lucky we are. I told him last night, do you realize you've cheated death and he said how you figure.  

ok gross ahead but do have a point. yall when i would mash bumps on his face he would bleed real bad (sign 1). I said do you realize had you been in an accident you would have bleed to death before you could get to the hospital. He said he would take so many pills he would get dizzy headed and have to go to bed (sign 2). i said do you realize you were driving to work you could have had a car wreck.  WE ARE VERY LUCKY.

I'm scared he will forget the pain of cold turkey (like labor for women) and go right back to doing them but im also scared to remind him because i dont wanna down him to much during the cold turkey. So im careful as to what i say.

Cant talk to no one because he doesnt want anyone to know. you guys are all i have right now.

[adviceforwife]

i kinda feel two sided about the feeling bad part to be honest.

i hope it goes away quickly but in the same sense i dont want him off to light i want him to remember this time so hopefully once he's kicked the habbit he will fear this.

[wantlifeback]

that sucks that you are feeling bad on day 7 also....i just can't figure out what is taking so long...i really thought the w/d would have gotten better by now.  I am still very happy to be here and proud of myself but i would really like to get back to work.  I am on clonidine and have to start to taper down as it was really affecting my bp.  I am starting to wonder if that is what is causing the bugs and jitters still.  Keep up the good work...tomorrow is a new day and it will be day 8 for both of us...stay strong.

[freebird4good]

Thani you, I appreciate that very much.
No we don't have any children.  It's just our cats and us.  I'm 43 and hubby is 46.  My best girlfriend is a nurse, she has 5 kids, all girls.  We have been lucky that she has been good enough to share her girls with us over the years.  They are like our own daughters.  Even though she is an RN, I still don't have the guts to talk to her about this.
God bless you again, raising teenagers has got to be a tough job !   I give you a Lot of credit,

[adviceforwife]

please dont feel embarassed, pick a friend and tell them, it's only the fear talking, im sorry you hubby is not supporting you, i just told my hubby last night i can not imagine what would have happened had i packed my bags and left. he said you talk to those people on the internet, i said yes and i will continue to they need support some dont have it.

i will continue to help in any way i can so if you need me im here. do you have children, i have 4 and 3 of them are teenagers yikes. :)

[adviceforwife]

my hubby was 15 a day lortabs. Dont get me wrong the first 3 days where hell, flu symptons, leg cramps seem to be the worst. The nights were bad but like i've said i bought this sleep aid with non pain med and non addictive in it and he took it for 3 nights so i think that helped alot because he was able to rest at night.

yesterday was a good day, today he says he's real sore legs feel like jello.

what made the difference with us was a person we know got busted and the whole time im telling my hubby about reading it he's scared to death that could have been him, next day is when he went cold turkey so that happening is what scared him into it. my husband has a great will power, when he sets his mind to something he normally does it. a couple of years ago he lost 115lbs on the atkins diet so i know he can do it.

[freebird4good]

adviceforwife - congrats to you and to your hubby.  God bless you for standing by him and supporting him. I can only tell you that if my hubby were supporting me, it would be a helluva lot easier for me to handle.  Fortunately, I have you and the others to talk to. I am too embarassed to tell my closest friends.  Hang in there !

wantlifeback - I know exactly how you feel.  I'm on day 7 too and I feel like s--t !  I still have leg heebie jeebies and this morning I felt hungover again.  Hang in there, I'm with you hanging in there too.

[IBKleen]

Hi Hun!

I am so happy for you both. I remember when you first posted.

Everyone is right...staying clean is up to him. However, you can suggest--strongly--that he engage in some sort of aftercare. Whether that be therapy/counseling or meetings, or both. A lot of addicts will pick back up after they get thru the w/d's because, like you said, they forget the pain. But, also because they don't address the depression that very often follows.

Talk to him. Make suggestions.

[wantlifeback]

what and how much was hubby taking? i am on day 7 ct and i still feel like **** with bugs under my skin the whole bit.  I don't really feel like the wd are getting much better, i am starting to wonder what is wrong with me???  I just came from doctor asked for sub but he said no, i'm in the home stretch and have to wait it out.  Very happy for you and your husband, good for you for standing by him having support is alot easier.

[adviceforwife]

thank you and i commend your wife as well. ITS CALL FOR BETTER OR WORST. and i intend on holding up my end of the deal.

also in finding this place intend to help or talk to anyone who wants to talk. i'm no expert, im no doctor im just a willing pair of ears.

[PromisedLand]

I just want to commend you for your efforts for your husband..yes, ultimately it is up to him, but you have obviously been a great support for him, as was my wife for me.


God Bless you


Jim

[justlikeyou]

its up to him in the end,

you cant be with him 24/7, if he wants use drugs he will.

lets hope he doesnt.