Hey! You know my wife!!? ;-)
Rex
Don't you mean Buddette? :0)
That's great news! I absolutely think he CAN feel good right now. When you first get clean people in the 12 step meetings refer to this great mood as a "pink cloud". That's when everything looks beautiful and it just feels so great to be clean and free from the chains of addiction. I do understand your concern though.
The best thing you can do is first take care of yourself, find someone who's been through the same thing with their spouse, and second continue to encourage him. You can tell him not to feel afraid to talk with you because, after all, you married for better or worse and you remain totally commited to that vow. It
is kind of hard to talk to your spouse about your cravings and worries, so don't think for a minute that he's trying to exclude you, he may feel humiliated about his lack of control in this one area of his life, or he may really be trying to protect you from worry. Both seem to me to be healthy responses. Its good for him to be humble. It means he is starting to feel his emotions again after being numb from pills so long. If he's doing it to protect you, another good sign because his desire to be the man of the house again may mean that his self esteem may be coming back a little. Either way, just enjoy your husband right now and remember you can not control his desire to use. You can make yourself crazy worying about all the "what if's". Things will happen when they are supposed to.
Good to hear from ya!
I have been told "chick" is now inappropriate, "ma'me" is too old sounding and "gal" is sexist.
You girls/gals/ladies/chicks/women/babes/females really do need an equivalent of the term "guy".
Rex
Thanks guys... I am sure this info will be helpful to her.
You reading this, Pillhell?!
Sharon
Thanks for the supportive words, bud.
Glad you are here - it life people up whether you realize this or not...
Rex