anger & apathy

[littlelolo]

I haven't posted for a few days and I cannot find my other posts under "little lolo", Mom's favorite name for me.  (I am  quite get all this yet & being 62 is just an excuse).  So I will start a new thread.  I posted that my 23 yo daughter had used drugs in H.S., we sent her to World Wide Assoc. of Specialty Programs for 19 months of drug rehab/combination high school.  She is now living with us, has recently withdrawn from oxycontin use by using her strong willpower & suboxone....That's a brief background.
My question to those who have used and to parents here....Are you or have your seen your child experience unusual and unreasonable bursts of anger.  My daughter in high school would have explosive bursts of anger way out of proportion to a situation.  It would make my head spin.  
Now, we are having so much trouble getting her to follow thru with plans....This AM she needed me to find the juice before she could make an appt with an prospective employer.  So it was me who blew my cork...
So...is anger and apathy...a lot of trouble making plans & following thru an issue with those who use/ have used in the past drugs?
Thank-you,
Mom

[mtgoat911]

my kids are still little so i have not been through this with them
but i did put my mom through the same stuff your daughter is doing
she should look into anger management classes, i also had to take an drug called seroquel when i was detoxing because of my agression
now that i am clean i play roller derby and get the aggression out by rolling hard into people
but fear and anger ruled my life for so long, i need NA everyday so that i could learn how to live with my issues
your daughter was in rehab for a long time, i am sure they suggested she goto na....right
if she does not go send her packing
when my parents cutt me off, it was a slap in the face, but i needed that
find a couple of friends at narcanon, they can help you handle your daughter
everytime i read a thread like this i want to call my mom and make amends, but i know that she wants is living amends, life long behavior adjustment, your daughter can learn about that in na
xo

[GA Guy]

I've reread your post a couple of times and I can't conclude whether she's still on Suboxone or not? If she is, what dosage is she one now? One of the top character traits of us addicts is that we're selfish. We will do, say, and believe anything to feed the addiction. I have been on Sub before, and I can say that the feelings on Sub are much different than when I was taking handfuls of Percocets. I will say this...Suboxone can be difficult to dose correctly, and I have seen people who have become "mean" on opiates in general. I also want to say something about a word that gets thrown about on this forum a lot. It's "enabling". Many of us have people that help to enable our habits. Some of them enable our habits out of love, others enable it out of malice. Your daughter is now 23 years old and I can see through your post that you've done so much to help her. Sometimes, the best help can be no help at all. One of the things that many people have against Suboxone is that the addict never gets the chance to actually "hit bottom". The argument lies in the belief that we all have to ultimately come to the conclusion that the addiction is more powerful that we are, and that most people only come to realize this when they hit their own "personal low". I don't want to throw a lot of psycho babble at you, I just wanted you to start thinking about whether this anger is just a way to keep her from facing her addiction. In the mean time, I can tell you this..I never had the anger issue..but apathy is something I still deal with every minute of the day.

[road2recovery]

I have no experience with sub, so i know someone here who does can help you...Or there is a forum for addiction that a doctor can help you...

I am a addict myself...., and i also have a daughter that is also...She has spent 5 months in rehab, I know what you are feeling...We are both in recovery now, but it has not been easy...And it breaks my heart to see our children go through this...
god bless
r2r

[GoingToMakeIt]

First, to see your own posts. After you have logged in to MedHelp, click the My MedHelp at the top of the page. Then you will see your profile page. Look for the posts section and click the see all. In your case, it will direct you here. http://www.medhelp.org/user_posts/list/720025?personal_page_id=364477

If your daughter is seeing a Dr for the suboxone. It sounds like she may need a dose adjustment & or something for her mood.