This is for my fellow taperers or low low dosage users out there

[all_alone1]

Please don't feel like you are alone or making a wrong choice by tapering or still taking that last little bit.....I know that most if not almost all on here have taken the route to go CT instead of tapering because of temptation but they suffer a lot for a long time and for good reason all the damage that was done.....

Tapering is much easier on the body therefore much healthy way in my opinion which this is by the way so don't anyone get all bunched up

I just wanted to post this for one a lot of people out there are intemidated by some of the post because of the choice they are making and get scared off and don't want to post anymore....I know that is how I felt when I went back to tapering....the come telling the truth of what and how much they are taking and looking for support....there is absolutely nothing wrong with tough love but we need to be careful of our choice of words for some individuals are very sensitive......and this help forum is for eveyone so please try not to scare anyone away you never know what is behind the computer screen I will give you a short to the point true story

One of my husbands college professors told him that he had a student come after class to talk to him everyday for a week and each of those days told the student he was busy with another student to make an appointment to talk with him....well that following Monday the student show up for class and the next few days after that....the teacher finally asked the class if they heard anything from this particular student...one of the classmates told him she commite suicide over the weekend.....POINT see what happens for not listening or pusing someone away cuz it doesn't seem important.

So with that said please all my fellow taperers or low dosage users or just anybody woh needs to talk I am here and please message me or post and I will respond...we have come this far please don't let comments discourage you.

Thanks for listening or should I say reading lol
Everyone please take care

[all_alone1]

Sorry that story should of stated the student didn't show up for class this touch phone gets on my nerves some times it ruiend my story

[kyle505]

angel:
From a cold turkey detoxer - excellent post. You may have just encouraged someone out there to stop because you're supporting an alternative to going ct, and you are an example of someone who it is working for.
The way I figure, the more options available, the more you'll get addicts and abusers to at least consider stopping. Thanks for your plain talk.

[all_alone1]

You are welcome kyle....everyone on here needs hellpor at least someone to talk to if they are not ready and hopefully they will come around....but if we scare them away then that chance they are looking for here may be gone that is all I am trying to say....

[GA_need_help]

Angel

Yes, why is it that some want to set a standard that doesn't fit all?.  I have told people urging me to go cold turkey that my doctor said it wasn't right for me.  Furthermore, I could not care for children in that state.  Yet I have been urged to go cold turkey in spite of these stated facts.  Why is it that I shouldn't get support when my choice is to taper?  How many people just don't post or stay on MedHelp because of others that are CT happy, and unhealthily so?  I recall very few of you have young children at home.  If you do, you aren't going ct off of a drug as strong as mine.  But, why even put us in a situation to compare our addictions?  Please be kind to everyone on MedHelp.

[bama88]

Im all.for.tapering if you can. Logically speaking its the correct thing.to.do. I agree with that. I think it takes more willpower to.taper. And it definatley is less stress on the body. But you've got.to.stick.to.the taper. And that's hard in my opinion. Yes i get the taper route. Im not against it. If i could have done it i wish i would have. I know it would have been easier to deal with.lol Im all.for whatever works for you. Progress is progress that leads to success.

[bama88]

And nobody should be afraid to post. This is a support forum. And if we can reach one.person. And they stop anyway they can. Its a victory

[Kell2184]

I read this forum for days before I actually posted. This kept me going even though none of you know who I am. Thank you all for your encouragement even if it is not directed directly at me!

[bama88]

Glad to hear that. Keep.up the good work. Post with us. Its liberating. And helps you feel less alone

[theaddict]

like you said, everyone is different in the route they take when it comes to getting off the pills. whether they taper or go CT, the point is, is that they are getting their life back. i am almost positive that if anyone's post on this forum [i am assuming you are referring to mine given what you've typed on that thread as well as here, no hard feelings though :) ] was deferring people from getting o the right track because they didn't go the same route as someone else - a moderator would approach said person.

to those who taper:  you are much stronger than i am. seriously. my hat goes off to each and every one of you. and if i offended by sharing my opinion on my thread, apologies. but everyone has their own opinion and right to ask a question. <3333

[all_alone1]

you are soo right about having the right...but I just wanted to make it known that some questions and answers offend people rather if we meant it or not which I am sure you didn't but other may take it another way and be scared off...we do become more sensetive when we are detoxing....... tapering or cold turkey.. so I just wanted to make sure someone was out there for us....the taperers

[theaddict]

i was just telling someone earlier something similar to what you just typed out. i honestly take no offense to anything anyone says to me on this site, if they ever do. 95% of the members here are detoxing and still riding the roller coaster of getting clean like we all have or are - and so emotions are high right now. :))

and we are all here for each other.

[gnarly_1]

HEY GIRL your doing ausum you should be free here in a wile you been at this now for quite some time but if its bringing you off comfortable stick with it slow is good sooner or later your going to be at the end you can expect some withdrawals but nothing like C/T your doing a great job im proud of you for sticking to it......Gnarly

[dominosarah]

To all who are tapering here just continue to do what you are doing.  It takes alot of discipline to do this.  The final goal is to be off the meds.  You are all doing great so keep it going~~sara

[all_alone1]

ohhh no no free ride thinker here just wanted to encourage other who haven't CT and are still working at it....or think to....or wanting to.....to post.....because almost every post is from someone who is clean(congrats.. you rock),,,,or who has gone CT (congrats for hainging in there)but hardly from any who are working hard on their tapers or hard to drop that little bit....even if you haven't moved but haved stayed down away from the dose you used to take....well that is a acomplishment...

That is all I am trying to say

[bmdad]

If tapering works for someone, that's great! Sure, ct is often recommended because most addicts don't have the discipline to taper. I've seen it on here many many times where someone decides to taper and they end up cheating. An addicts brain has a way of tricking someone by telling them that it's okay to take one extra today and then take one less tomorrow and that pattern continues. If we could control our how many we take we wouldn't be where we are it in the first place. But, not saying that it's that way for everyone. In my opinion, tapering is the right way to go about it if an addict has the willpower. When someone comes on here asking for support I always let them know that tapering is an option and worth a try. Most on here let them know that it's an option. I can't say I have seen posts where other members won't offer support because someone chooses to taper. Maybe I missed the posts where someone wasn't accepted because of their choice to taper. If someone decides to give tapering a try, great! If someone decides to go ct, that's great too! What works for one may not work another. I agree that tapering is an excellent option and should be considered. In my opinion, many of us don't have the willpower or discipline to taper but doesn't mean they shouldn't give it a try and definitely shouldn't be ignored which I can't say I see happening. The support is here no matter which route someone decides to take.

[all_alone1]

Thank you bmdad for your comment....a dear friend of mine on here has confided in me that she has been told by several individuals to jump or go cold turkey and I sure they mean no harm but she feels her choice is not being respected......I will let her futrther explain if she chooses

[dominosarah]

Noone here should have to feel they are not being respected for their choice to taper.  The goal is to get off the meds safely.

[lulu747]

HI Angelina...
I see your point and perhaps I missed the thread of which you speak....
Ultimately, we're here to support one another through one of the most difficult things there is for a human being to go through...And we can only speak from our own experiences. Brian made an excellent point about the addict's brain...And as this is a substance abuse forum a lot of the members with clean time are aware of the tricks that it plays and are only trying to help by calling attention to them....I don't think it's meant as judgement-only to bring awareness.
I think there are enough people on this forum who have done it both ways (like myself) and are just offering their opinion, hope, and support.  The great thing about this forum is that you get all kinds of experiences and perspectives...I think everyone is just doing the best that they can with the knowledge that they have and it almost always comes from a place of compassion and love....
Awesome work on the taper girl....Proud of you....Lu

[bmdad]

I'm sorry that she feels her choice is not being respected. It is her choice so it most definitely should be respected!

People come to a forum for advice. All anyone can do is read through all the advice and use what they feel is best for them. She shouldn't feel disrespected just because someone told her to go cold turkey because it worked for them. I bet over 90% of addicts aren't able to taper but that still leaves quite a few that are able to. Just because ct worked for one doesn't mean it's the best choice for all.

My opinion for tapering is to give it a try but the second you veer off that taper, flush them and go ct. It's all too easy to talk ourselves into taking one extra for today because we have this or that going on. It normally ends up being an everyday thing though. But, if you are able to stick to that taper then I feel that is the way to go. I've tapered in the past and got through with little to no withdrawal. It takes so much discipline which is normally something us addicts don't have. Later on down the road I wasn't able to taper and had to bite the bullet. We have to remember that everyone is at different stages of addiction and they might not be in so deep to where they aren't able to make a taper work.

We are all after the same goal and that's what's important. As long as we all reach that goal who cares which route somebody takes.

Please tell your friend to take what advice she needs and leave the rest. On an open forum there's always going to be things that tick us off and leave us feeling disrespected. You just have to read over everything, evaluate the responses and use what's best for you. Leave what you think is negative and only worry about the wealth of support that is here. No matter what thread somebody reads, there's always going to be some advice that someone else doesn't agree with. All that matters is she accomplishes the goals she is after and we will all be here to help her by offering advice that worked for us. But, in the end it is her choice and everyone should respect that. If her her taper is working and she's sticking to it then that's all that really matters right now.




Brian

[ricart70]

Hi angel   how are you doing?  good I hope

[bama88]

Nobody should feel.like we disrespect one another. All we have is words on a sscreen so you can't hear the tone or emotions behind the post. Everyone that finds their way here needs help and support. And that's what this place is. Its a safe place to let off steam vent. Encourage and support.

How ever you choose to.stop. Its not easy. But with hard work and dedication it can be and will be done.

We tend to.forget Alot of us got addiction because of pain issues. And Alot of us took the meds for relief. Its plain scarey thinking if the pain will return and is it going to be worse? Or how to live with out our habit ? Humans are creatures of habits. And its hard when you hurt emotionally or physically or both not to.reach and sooth the pain. Its a whole circle of habits and behavior that is in play. I support anyone who.wants to better themselves.

[all_alone1]

Hi ricart70.....I am doing good hainging in there...still working on my taper

How are you?

[rizboy]

hi i know what your saying people on here do tend to say "jump off".but the taper method produces a better chance of staying clean.nice one for speaking up

[all_alone1]

Thank you rizboy.....I am glad you understand what I meant.....