methadone taper

[sassypnksox]

my fiance and i have been together 3 years now.  he is a recovering addict from about 100 or so pills a day(before we met), and has been on methadone for a little over 3 years now.  it's been really tough, becuase i really was kinda prude about addictions, having only done some stupid **** back in highschool.  needless to say i have learned a whole lot in our time together.  unfortunatly he has an EXTREMELY addictive personality (and i don't say that lightly), and has relapsed on me 3, possible 4 times.  for the most part i have learned signs and symptoms of relapsing.  i have stuck by him, even though i am pretty much dead inside from what has gone on.  our relationship has suffered tremendously and it will take me years to trust him again.  we also have two children together.  he is tapering off methadone and is at around 70mg (i believe he was at around 200 or so at his highest).  i really don't get a lot of answers out of people or searches, and i would like to know the "norms" when someone is tapering.  he pretty much falls asleep standing up, doing dishes, acts slightly disoriented, and sometimes his eyes look fisheyed(not focused).  is this normal...what stuff can i expect, and should i be worried?

[wait2long]

i really dont think i made any negative comments about b/f at all...and if you dont call nodding off in the middle of a conversation high, then what is it?   i thought i "never" felt high on methadone either, when i was taking methadone i called it "feeling normal"   until i stopped taking it, then i realized that the past 10 months was nothing buy a hazey memory, and i usually only took 20 mg a day....and there is nothing normal about not being able to keep  your eyes open mid-day and almost burning your house down because you fell asleep AGAIN with a cigarette in your hand...  i wasnt looking to get high either, i used methadone to quit a 25-30 percocet a day habit....and you are right her b/f should be the one here posting, maybe sassy will work on him with  that... all i do know and its a fact, is if someone is an addict and they are still using or abusing, then they will lie about it until they are ready to get clean..you cant make someone stop...they have to do it because its what they want.  the first step of recovery is honesty, with yourself and loved ones.  and i am not downing methadone either, it started me on the path in the right direction, but it still can be abused.  Peace & love

[sassypnksox]

i have been thinking some time now about going to alanon for myself

[sassypnksox]

i totally agree that all sides of the story are best and i appreciate your input completely.  know too that he has been on this over 3 years now.

[Calzy]

I can't answer your last question sassy but it could be a yes.  wait2long~The first 2 days on Methadone at 30mg & 40mg were the only times I felt high on it. After that I did'nt feel that light buzz and now after 6 mo's I don't call noding off and sleeping all the time being high. When I took 5 or 6 lortab at once and was cleaning a toilet bowl at 4 am I was high. It's being so long i don't know how i am suppose to feel.     I am taking methadone to quit the lortab and if I am geting high than thats not what I am looking for.  I know it does'nt sound good for home boy but I am giving him the benefit of the doubt and just comparing what I am going through since I stopped using. I just thought if sassy asked  her b/f to join us here than we would be dicussing this with him and not about him without knowing all the facts. Sorry but I just like to hear as many sides of a story before I make a comment on a person in a negative way and I came here last week for help in my recovery and I am not trying to get in anyone's face. Peace

[wait2long]

hun just remember, you arent alone..we are all here fighting addiction, either for ourselves or a loved one...if you want to work this out with him..you have to sipport him and become involved in his recovery, you will need help also...i recommend counseling for you too,,inorder for him to be successful in his recovery he need all the love and support he can get...but only if he is honest and truthful to himself first and you second, he has to want to do this for him first...hang in there, we are here if you need t talk...when you go to his counselor, tell him that b/f falls asleep with cigs, nods off all the time..tell the counselor everything so he can help you both.

[sassypnksox]

that makes me feel better....and i think i am going to call his clinic tomorrow and set something up to talk to his coucelor with him.  he needs to get out of there and away from bad influences.  if it weren't for our families and severe lack of $, i'd move out to the middle of north dakota or something and away from all this ****