support needed 35 wks pregnant aaahhh!!!

[ode2shel]

Hello all- its been awhile since Ive posted, but Ive been reading in silence.  Im now almost 35 wks preggo, and Im the one who has been on pain meds for over a yr.  I was on a low dose of subutex, and when I was about 2 mos pregnant, the docs switched me to oxycodone, 5 mgs, 4 times a day.  I am now down to 2-3 a day, and desp want off the sh*t in the next 2 wks.  The docs have me tapering 1 pill every 3-5 days, and I am having a very hard time.  Im fully aware that when you stop or lower pain meds, your body falsifies your pain, causing you to think you're in more pain than you are, which I recognize, plus Im pregnant, so I naturally hurt all over anyways, and am not sleeping bc of pregnancy, and lowering he pain meds.  Its so hard, I have a 3 yr old and my energy is disspiating so fast, and Im just scared of being incapacitated.  Ive had a hard time gaining weight this pregnancy even though I eat a lot.  With my daughters pregnancy, I gained lots of weight, and was not on meds.  I had an OB checkup today, and they dont think its necessary to do another sonogram right now, or any other testing.  Bottom line is Im just plain scared.  I want this baby to be healthy, and Im scared I dont have the the strength to fully get of the pain med before I deliver.  Ive read posts in the pat from some other women who were on pain meds during pregnancy, like mom2rachie and others.  Any advice or support would be appreciated.  I need to get this under raps

[jfrick50]

I am so sorry that those of you that are pregnant are going through this, but as everyone else is saying on here, the baby is MORE important then a NEED to take the medication. Any doctor that prescribes someone to a narcotic while they are pregnant, I think is just plain stupid. They know what the innocent child, as well as the woman are going to have to go through and why would anyone want to be in that situation? I can't imagine how stressful that it must be being pregnant and worrying about yourself and baby too... but you should have researched the effects it would have on you and your baby before you started to take it, or continued to take it.. I just can't imagine a doctor that actually gave a **** putting someone on this medicine while pregnant.. it just doesn't make sense to me.. Although, I am not an expert, very new to the site, and going through some new things of my own, which brought me here... I just can't see why a doctor would put someone on something that they would know would make a precious little baby sick???!

[TXRebecca]

Are you from Texas?  I'm wondering if I know you.  You speak like a person I'm friends with. You don't actually have to tell me, I was just being nosey :)

Hmmm???

[poisonivy3]

Wow. I first started to post here because I saw all the support and care you all give to one another. And I also know there is a time for 'tough love' and such....I have had to give it as much as I have had to receive it. But, two222? For you to tell her she doesn't deserve support? Why would you say such a thing? EVERYONE deserves support when they ask for it. Everyone. You say you quit when you found out you were pregnant. Great. I commend you for that. But, then...you said you started up again when you had the C-section which means you were under the influence of strong narcotics when you were taking care of a newborn baby. Do you think that makes you better than shel? Because you stopped during the pregnancy? I don't think any addict has the right to say they are 'better' than another. Your baby suffered, too you know. Maybe not because of W/D's, but was it fair to your newborn to be under the care of you while high?
My point is, ALL of our kids have suffered from our selfish choices in one way or another. I think it is incredibly hypocritical for you to judge this woman while in my eyes, you are no better than the rest of us.
Shel....I DO give you my full support, and my prayers. I agree with TXRebecca, listen to your doctors and follow their treatment plan for you. They know what they are doing, and I really believe that everything will work out for you and your baby.
BY the way, congragulations on the upcoming arrival of that precious gift from God.
You are in my prayers.

[TXRebecca]

My friends baby who had to be lowered slowly off morphin when born, went home two days later, and is a fat, happy, SMART toddler!

Good Luck, and Congrats on your soon to be bundle!

[lashamummyof2]

Hi - I haven't read all of the above posts, but I gave birth to a baby eight weeks ago and had to be on pain meds throughout the entire pregnancy. My baby was born in excellent health. I took two tylenol 3's the day I went into labour as - like you - I planned on not taking anything the last few weeks, but I had a broken tailbone and a two year old, and I didn't think I was in labour.
Anyway, the labour went smoothly and my son scored very high agpars and needed no suppoprt. NO withdrawals at all. zero. Nothing since.
I am not a doctor, but if your docs know about what you are taking, you are fine. the drugs do not cause birth defects. You can contact Motherisk.org - they are a worldwide organization that will give you advice on how drugs affect the fetus. It is a medical fact that narcotics in prescribed doses do not cause defects; the risk is in possible withdrawal, which, in your doses, seems very unlikely.
Everyone has an opinion and I just want to tell you that it is best for you at this point, to relax and not to stress about what you have done, your baby will be fine. If you stress, and if you get upset, you will cause more harm to the fetus.
Be kind to yourself. I have been on these boards for a while, and some people can be very aggressive with mothers who take pain pills (regardless of whether they need them or not). I guess I just want to be a supportive voice for you and tell you personally that I had a very healthy baby who at 8 weeks is thriving and growing off the charts. I am only on meds once a day, and regret that I spent so much of my pregnancy worried about the harm I was doing despite my doctors assuring me that all would be well. They were right; the baby was completely fine.
It is very difficult to be in pain as a pregnant woman, I understand your pain and wish the best for you and your baby. As long as the hospital knows, everything is fine.
Best of luck!!!

[TXRebecca]

You and your baby will be just fine, the doctors are taking care of you  & last time I checked none of them are doctors.  Just worry about following every single step just right.  Lexy's Mama is correct your baby will get it from breast milk, but you won't have to worry about that if you stop on your target date.  I told this story MONTHS ago, but I had a friend who had breast cancer, she found out she was pregnant, and she took morphin under doctors orders the entire pregnancy.  When her baby was born, they know exactly what to do to NOT have your baby go throught W/D's.  Your baby would only suffer if you never told anyone and they had no idea you were on pills.  But the fact that you & your baby are under doctor's care, you will both be fine.  These people are just thinking of what it would be like if the hospital and doctor's were totally in the dark about this.  There are people with auto-immune disease's that HAVE to take pain meds FOREVER, even through pregnancy, but it is safe under the care of a doctor only.

They clearly are going on gut reaction, not positive facts.  If your doctor and the hospitals don't know about it, THAT is dangerous, but they DO KNOW, so you both will be fine sweetie!

None of you know what is going on in someone's life, and you are saying and giving out WRONG information that you don't know about, plain and simple.