support needed 35 wks pregnant aaahhh!!!

[ode2shel]

Hello all- its been awhile since Ive posted, but Ive been reading in silence.  Im now almost 35 wks preggo, and Im the one who has been on pain meds for over a yr.  I was on a low dose of subutex, and when I was about 2 mos pregnant, the docs switched me to oxycodone, 5 mgs, 4 times a day.  I am now down to 2-3 a day, and desp want off the sh*t in the next 2 wks.  The docs have me tapering 1 pill every 3-5 days, and I am having a very hard time.  Im fully aware that when you stop or lower pain meds, your body falsifies your pain, causing you to think you're in more pain than you are, which I recognize, plus Im pregnant, so I naturally hurt all over anyways, and am not sleeping bc of pregnancy, and lowering he pain meds.  Its so hard, I have a 3 yr old and my energy is disspiating so fast, and Im just scared of being incapacitated.  Ive had a hard time gaining weight this pregnancy even though I eat a lot.  With my daughters pregnancy, I gained lots of weight, and was not on meds.  I had an OB checkup today, and they dont think its necessary to do another sonogram right now, or any other testing.  Bottom line is Im just plain scared.  I want this baby to be healthy, and Im scared I dont have the the strength to fully get of the pain med before I deliver.  Ive read posts in the pat from some other women who were on pain meds during pregnancy, like mom2rachie and others.  Any advice or support would be appreciated.  I need to get this under raps

[Two222]

I support anyone's desire to get clean, but i support preventing a baby from going through withdrawals even more sorry, so NO I won't keep my opinions to myself. I can judge as much as I damn well please when it comes to someone who chooses getting high over a baby who has no choice. So you can get as defensive as you would like in order to make yourself feel less guilty about what you have been doing. You say you have been worrying about this since you first saw your pregnancy test yet it took you this long to start doing something about it regardless of what your money hungry doctors say. your docs wanting to wait until your third trimester is unusual especially when it's more dangerous taking pills so close to the end of a pregnancy then it is in the beginning, so why would they even want you to get that far while still taking them?Many many people stop taking these meds when they are early in pregnancy (no matter what is wrong with them) and no miscarriage occurs. You act like your "meds" are something keeping you alive. They are pain meds. And even if I was being judgmental I do have every right to be. I STOPPED taking pills the moment that little positive test came back, and started again AFTER the baby was born and now I'm almost completly weened off. I'm not here to give you support because as far as I'm concerned you don't deserve it and I hope you enjoy your "meds" now, and think about what you are doing when your baby is born and goes through an excruciating pain that he/she can't even vocalize because it's a BABY who has no choice. If women like you would just admit they are being selfish for not quitting way sooner and just admit that they couldn't do it instead of claiming all this "doctor this..doctor that" bull **** then I wouldn't say a word, but it just makes me a little sick thats all. If you were really worried then you would have done something sooner. ...Now everyone freak out and say what I know you are going to say!

[dfr3]

just to let you know, i spoke to an obgyn specialist in neonatal care, she said the most danger is in the last trimester because of breathing promblems.   but of course you need to stop!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
are you being completly honest with your doctor?  i know that they told me to take darvcet and i was planning on breastfeeding.  i asked the nurse if she thought it would harm my new born she said absolutly not.  but i didnt believe, i did'nt take it, because i was afraid of w/d's my baby would have.
so do not give up because you think its already hopeless.  just ween for the babies sake asap!!!!!!!!!!!!!
did your doctor tell you they will test your baby and if he/she is positive for opiates they will take action.  in my state they take your child.

[mom2rachie]

I'm sure you both will be ok but concentrate on staying off of them after the baby comes please for both of your sake's.  Post all you want, we're here to listen...

[mom2rachie]

Yes, her doctors should have started her taper earlier but who knows what's wrong or why she's taking them to begin with.  They should have started a long time ago if they wanted her to be pill free by the time the baby came.  But, it is what it is at this point and you're stating the obvious.  The important thing is that the docs know so they can care for the baby and that she has a plan so she can care for the baby.  There is no changing the past.  She needs to make sure of their future now.  I'm sure physically the baby will be ok (I pray that he/she is) but emotionally, well, she needs to be sober because parenting is hard enough to not do it level headed.

My pill intake was very minimal and it was for a myriad of ailments I had during pregnancy.  When I stopped, I stopped long before addiction for my daughter would become an issue.  Sometimes it doesn't go that way.

[ode2shel]

Your input heard, however, I posted here not to give excuses, and I have been worrying about this from the time I received a pisitve pregnancy test, at which time I was switched meds to a LOW dose of oxycodone a day, and I had rh disease so I could not just stop taking the meds for rick of losing the baby.  I have been on a taper fro the last month.  i am a high risk pregnancy, and the drs kept me consistently on a dose of med, and wanted to start weaning me my 3rd trimester, so I am by my last month.  I am down 2-3 pills a day, which is 10 to 15 mgs of oxyCODONE, whcih according to the multiple drs I have seen who make a lot of money, is a low dose...but I guess Ill take your opinion before theirs that I am on a high dose.  I am very concerned about this child being born addicted, whcih is why I am on a taper, and sticking to what they tell me to.  I posted on here bc of not feeling well and needing support, and thank you so much for your support.  You are a jugdemental person, and as an ADDICT, you have no room to be, period!  If you cant support someone's desire to get clean then keep your feelings to yourslef

[mom2rachie]

telling her to get off at this late stage is dangerous.  it can cause her to go into pre-term labor so please do not do anything like that unless your dr suggests it and you are monitored very closely.

it's too late to do a taper.  your dr knows about it so they can treat the baby if he/she sufferes any w/d symptoms, which isn't always the case.
i took pain meds throughout my entier pregnancy but quit 2 months before I was due.  my dr prescribed them to me so they knew all about it.  i had a high risk peri-natal specialist and had a high level ultra sound done every 2 weeks but not because of the pill intake, i had other things going on.  

babeies who suffer from withdrawals have a poor sucking relflex, cry excessively, vomit, have trouble sleeping and are generally more cranky.  I am not saying that this will be the case but it is possible so I wanted to let you know what you might be in store for, although your dr should have explained all of this to you.

if your dr knows your history, they can ease those symptoms rather quickly.

i wish you lots of luck.

By the way my daughter will be a year next week and she is incredibly healthy, smart and happy and had no w/d whatsoever!  i wish  yo lots of luck but please get some sort of recovery plan for after the baby is born because that's when you're going to need the most help, mentally and physically.