Jack Newman, M.D., the world's foremost expert on breastfeeding, has written that studies show clearly that the level of alcohol in breastmilk is only the level that is in the mother's blood. In other words, if she is downright trashed, her blood alcohol would be .10 percent or so, and that is way less than is in a nonalcoholic beer!!! Please, everyone, don't be so afraid of breastmilk. Now, whether she should be drinking six beers a night while caring for a toddler is another story. But nursing is a good thing. Forcibly weaning the child would be cruel and useless. Getting the mom to get herself help would be a good idea. Perhaps she is self-treating for depression? Her mom should be looking to strengthen the bond between her daughter and her grandchild. Looking out for the grandchild's best interests should include helping her daughter to be the mom that she wants to be rather than condemning her. I didn't see anywhere that the mom has abused or neglected her child in any way, except that the mom has a problem. What happens to the mom when she drinks those six beers? Over how many hours does she drink them? By the way, I myself don't drink, so I'm not condoning drinking, but often when people drink heavily they are crying out for HELP not for condemnation! Yes, help her to take care of the child, but do some more research about human milk before trying to take that away from your grandchild! By the way, most pediatricians have their only breastfeeding info from formula companies so they are not breastfeeding supportive, even if they don't realize it.
Congratulations on finding the strength and courage to step up and put your grandson first!
I am not going to apologise for my earlier comments as I feel very strongly about an adults responsibilty and need to protect children from abuse of any type. I don't believe you can reason with or soft peddle the devasting effects of active alcholics or enablers on the children in their care; the denial is so strong.
You have made a major step in becoming the strong, protective grandmother this child needs; your grandson will thank you for saving his life. I wish you the strength to stay focused and dedicated to this little boy; don't ever forget you are all he has right now.
There are support groups to help families of alcholics, is it Alanon? Someone here can verify that for you, but these groups can offer you support, help and understanding from people who have lived what you are living right now. You need support and help too, take it where you can find it.
Stay strong, you have my best wishes for success.
Again I apoligize for any rude or malicious comments to you but if any of them made you think a little than nothing but good can come of it. I know that you love your daughter, but the life she gave to another human is just as precious if not more so. She is old enough to know what harm she is doing, but can't see it because of her disease, it takes a stong person to stand up for the rights of that baby I just hope and pray that you will be stong enough to do that. It will be a rough road and your daughter will probably hate you for a while because of it but you have to stand stong. I will be here as many others to give you encouragement or a kick in the butt whenever you need it. Please keep us informed on how everything is going.
You are right about how strangers can touch your lives. You and many others here have made such a difference in my life. I don't sweat the little things as much anymore, there are so many more inportant things like our faith, family, health.
Good luck to you all and May God be watching over you.
i second honey's statement.
The pediatrician might be able to just listen to what you have to say, insist he does and document the conversation's date for your records. He might not be able to share the baby's info with you, but he sure can listen to you. next step is child protective services as i suggested in your first post.
btw, is there any info on the alcohol issue at LLleague's site? i know their helpline can be very useful.
gl and be strong on this.
First let me apoligize for not only my language but also attitude. Anyone here knows that is not like me to vent that way.
It is obvious that you care enough to be asking for advise and I give you credit for that, but asking is not enough you must DO something.
Talk to your daughter and tell her what our suggestions were.
Tell her that you want her to take the baby in for more test and to be honest with the doctor or you will be (and go with her to make sure she does tell the doctor)He needs to know all the factors. Especially about this going on for two years
Tell her that she needs to quit breastfeeding if she is drinking
Have you talked to her already about this? What does she say?Is she that far gone that she doesn't realize the harm this is causing this child?
Most importantly than anything is for you to realize that there is a childs LIFE at stake and that you need to do something to help.
God bless you all. I hope that your GRANDbaby and daughter get the help that they need.
Glad you saw the light and our prayers will be there for you to continue to be strong and for your family! I know you love your daughter but right now she is not of sound mind. Alcoholics cannot make decisions and it tears our heart out because we want to believe that they will quit and do the right thing but its a sickness. I know because I have a niece that battles it and she cannot make any decisions. God Bless!