Hello Everyone!

[dominosarah]

Been rather quiet over here so i decided to put this up to see how everyone is doing!  I am doing well, woke up today and decided it was a good day to be sober.  I like having choices now.  All my zoo babies are napping, i should be cleaning but here i am!  I hope this finds you all well~~sara

[dominosarah]

That is what they call it when your last child leaves the nest!  It is a time of fear and excitement.  You spend most of your life raising your kids then all of a sudden they are gone and you sit across from your spouse and wonder who the he!! that person is!!!  lol

Lesa, you have spoke many times of working at that shelter.  Now is the time to get your name in there and make that dream a reality.  The only problem i see is you are going to run out of room and Gary will be adding on to the house again!!!  lol

[ibizan]

Empty nest syndrome?do i hear room for more dog adoptions?so many needing homes.....3-5 million dogs euthanized in shelters in the USA annually....so friggin shameful!:(open up heart and home 2 some?

[10356]

You have the Biggest heart my friend.. I do not think I'm being abandoned.. I know my youngest has to move on and is not a reflection on myself. If anything it shows I did something right :) I also prefer empty nest syndrome Heck maybe this will be what motivates me to volunteer at the wildlife hospital.. I could always sign up to bring the babies home to nurture :) He is not gone yet and the kitchen is still a lil off so I have time to process all of this. I wish it was as cut and dry as you have kids they grow up and move out but that would be to easy :)) I'm sure I will be leaning on you all I learned from my last relapse when my 2 oldest moved out I'm speaking about it before it even gets hold.. Thank you so much for the support and understanding..

[dominosarah]

Yes it is a natural process.  I just dont want you to think that you are being abandoned.  That bothers me for some reason cuz i dont like when you feel bad.  We will help you get thru the empty nest syndrome.  I like that word better!!

[dominosarah]

Theres a visual!!   LMAO

[rpooo]

I use to have "naked saturday" ha ha! then I got to fat..Spo I canceled that!  he he

[10356]

Drinking is not a Option !! and yes I do understand what you are saying sara and I appreciate it. I will work thru this It is a Natural process although I can not stop the damn tears !! I will get to the exciting part I'm sure :)) hugs

[dominosarah]

Just think, you will be able to run naked from the shower to your bedroom now!!  That actually was a goal of mine when my kids moved out.  lol

The abandonment issues you are feeling right now are different then the ones when you were a little girl.  I hope you can separate the 2.  This isnt an abandonment, this is growing up and moving on.  I do know what you are talking about, i hope you know what i am talking about!!  It is always scary to step out of our comfort zone but at the same time it is very exciting.  Just remember that drinking is NOT an option.  Oh and they do make phones in Mississippi!!  

[10356]

Thank you Sara..  Ibizan and Rpoo !! :)) I thought you were trying to tell me they make the phones in Georgia !! lol I was thinking well that is nice to know lol lol lol I think you are right sara him moving is becuase he finally feels comfortable enough to do so.. He has video chat with his girl so I'm sure he will be hooking us up also He is a very considerate son.. It is just difficult to process how I feel I know it is not right for your children to hold you up but for years my kids were the only thing keeping me breathing.. You know how I love to travel so this will be a long road trip when we visit :) makes finishing the kitchen bittersweet.. yes it is better to be clear headed for if I was drinking this would have not gone over well and I probably would have made a *** out of myself.. Life is far better out of the fog but it sure in the Hell hurts sometimes... Gary and I will be alone/nobody coming back home in a few weeks for the first time in 26 years... this is a lil intimidating for me but I will cross that bridge when I get to it.. Thanks again I know it is not the end of our relationship Those feelings are from days long gone but it evokes the pain of that lil girl who so long ago felt abandoned.. Gosh nothing Good is Ever easy.................

[dominosarah]

Where the he!! did i come up with Georgia?!!!  lol

[ibizan]

nashville is cool!a very metropolitan country oasis!lotsa $$$$ spent restoring downtown area!awesome food to!lotsa diversity w/the music 2!if ur a civil war buff quite the mecca for it!

[rpooo]

Lesa I thought I would mention Video chat for you and your son. I live in Texas and my daughters are in Michigan so we use a free service called Skype. An afforfdable HD webcam only cost about $30 and has a microphone built right in. Simply download Skype and plug in the webcam and your ready to go!

Between that and and text messages and sending pics with your phone its real easy to maintain a close relationship. Oh and don't forget about Facebook! Taking advantage of this technology has been really help for me in stay close with my daughters. I hope it helps you as well.

A very big congradulations on maintaining your sobriety!!!

So I was thinking about moving to nashville in a year or two. Has anyone spent much time there? Is it a nice place? They dont force you to listen to only country music do they? lol

Randy

[ibizan]

Cleaning?don't disturb that dust...its a natural preservative!:)weekend is done...its my quiet restorative time and love being in the company of napping greyhounds cats and eventually me!work week is hectic and i got a new word out of my ancient hazleden meditation book yesterday....strive 4 detached passivity vs.emotional enmeshment over things u have no control over.gonna work more on that!AND 10356-mississipi is a cool place to visit...LOVE their cookin!crabcakes,hushpuppies,catfish....close to Nawlins 2!sobriety is at times painful but far better than remaining in a fog!keep it going!:)

[dominosarah]

It is very hard to let go and it seems even harder now that we are sober and clean.  You have done a wonderful job raising those boys to be independant and to follow their heart.  No matter how far away they go Lesa, they will always know where home is.  They love their momma and they see how far you have come and they feel comfortable now leaving the nest.  They arent abandoning you at all, it's time for him to spread his wings and make a mark in this world.  And by the way, they make telephones in Georgia!!!  lol  I am glad you worked thru your feelings today.  You done good my friend~~sara

[10356]

Hi Sara ! I have had better days I actually thought about having a drink and even getting drunk.. It was my first thought when my youngest told me he will be moving to mississippi once the kitchen if finished. I always knew in my heart this is what he would decide but hearing it was so final.. That old abandonment thing tried to rear it's head but it did not get far.. I still have trouble when my feelings are deeply effected.. I hurt for I love him so much and will miss him so much He is really a awesome person but I'm Happy he has love and will be starting his life where he found joy and comfort.. He really likes the life style and laid back nature of the south he also found he likes farming :) Gary and I took the dogs out for a walk this helped to dispel any thoughts of drinking and gave me a chance to accept the inevitable.. Addiction sure can be a pain in the arse.. I'm clean I did not drink today and for this I'm Grateful.. hugs lesa