Dear JD....sad that u r witnessing ur dad destroy himself.........are there any Al-Ateen meetings nearby u?
Hi Guys im 14, This day that i am writing this is the third time my dad has vomited blood, In my opinion my father drinks way more than the people here do..... He drinks 4 liters of wine in one day and a bottle of whiskey or vodka or bourbon. As a child it's traumatizing, But for me i guess im super weird and for some reason i do not feel sad for my father instead i find hatred in my self. He know it's his final stage yet he drinks. He wants to stop cold turkey but his failed on multiple ocassions. I really dont know what will happen all i know is that he'll either live or die... Oh he started drinking since he was 16 and now he is 54 years of age
3 kids good sad story..thanks..and jacker hang in there.....keep this thing behind you...good luck...billy
Thank you for the post. There are times when I want to convince myself that my former lifestyle of drinking was "no big deal", and it wouldn't hurt me to try it again. The truth is, the last few years have really flown by, and if I was to take up my habit again I could end up on the same boat as your father. I don't want to go back there again and I really don't want to die that way. Your story is a powerful motivator.
I watched my Dad die from years of drinking... about 7 years ago. He was a beer drinker too. He died a month and 1 day after his 56th birthday...he never got to meet his grandchildren.
I still have really troubling images in my head from his last 3 months alive. He started having seizures, he couldn't keep a job, he vomited blood. His liver and kidneys were failing. My sister and brother found him on the floor of his trailor almost dead. He had soiled himself and we don't know how long he had been there since he lived by himself. When they got to the hospital the doctors didn't think he would make it out of ICU. As his children, we had to make the horrible decision as to whether or not he would be resuscitated. He lived for 3 months, but they were difficult months. He hallucinated terribly through detox. They had to restrain him because he thought the tubes hooked to him were snakes and he constantly pulled them out. He didn't recognize us at times. He vomited buckets of blood in the hospital. His body swelled up with fluid (because of his failing organs) so much so that his skin would tear and it made him look as if he were pregnant. And all those toxins in his body weren't being filtered by his liver and kidneys, so they made him very confused.
His last month alive was lived in a nursing home. By then he was clear-headed and he hated being there. He was the youngest person there, but he was dying and we couldn't take care of him. My husband and I came into town to see him (at that time we didn't know it would be his last weekend) and my husband couldn't believe what he saw. He said my dad looked like he had spent a year in a concentration camp. He was skin and bones. Less than a week later he would die. My sister was there when he gasped for his last breath.
I tell you this because I hope the reality of this will motivate you to do whatever it takes to recover and get help. It's too late for my dad, but it's not too late for you. You are not a lost cause! You are a mother and your child (children) need you. I wish I still had my dad.
You know, I don't believe anything happens by accident. I found your posting because my son is sick (vomiting) and I was looking up info for him when I found you.
Don't just pray...plead with God...cry out to him multiple times a day! He knows you...He knows your name, townie. He knows all the hurts you've experienced and when others have let you down. His eye is on the sparrow and His eye is on you, townie.
Children, no matter what age, want and need, a sober parent. If you are able to read this there is still time for you. Alcohol and drugs only strain relationships...precious relationships. When I visit my dad's grave site I can only imagine....what if? I love you and I'll be praying for you!
Hi Townie,
I am brand new to this site, and I am delighted I have found it. Like yourself I have battled with alcohol for years, have seen Councillors, Therapists,been to A.A meetings, Councill addiction, I have been detoxed 5 times , have been on acomprasate. Finally collapsed a month ago, couldn,t eat couldn,t sleep, I was so dehydrated, My body was starting to shut down. I went into hospital, had horrible withdrawel symptoms, in fact I had to have 8 intravenous drips to try to hydrate me. To be honest that was a month ago, and I feel so much better, Thank goodness I managed to get to hospital, or I may not have been here to tell the tail. My liver is now starting to damage and I have been told I must keep off the drink or I will Die..... So doc is cheking my liver again on Friday to see how it fairs and then I am going to start taking DISULIFRAM.... ANTABUSE.. ...
Will keep you posted.. You stick in there townie, keep trying.... Don,t give up...I know how hard it is.., but things will only get worse if you keep on drinking... I,m sure everyone on this site will back you all the way , including me