how to stop my husband from yelling at me?

[snowchild16]

My husband and I have been together for 7+ years and married for 4 years now and we have a 20 month old son. We are both working professionals. Ever since I have been pregnant, my husband has been yelling at me when he gets stressed out by any situation. If my alarm clock went off and I didn't turn it off quickly enough he would scream at me "TURN OFF THE F****ING THING". When our son was little and woke up at night to feed, he would scream at me if I didn't wake up quickly enough. When our son was sick and had a high temperature, he started screaming at me. Recently he got fired from his job, because he screamed at the HR. This morning our car's battery died and he started screaming at me. My reaction varies between complete confusion, to panic, to sometimes screaming back at him. I feel like I'm constantly walking on eggshells. After each screaming episode he would not talk to me for a few days and then act as if nothing happened and be overly nice to me. If I dare to bring it up with him, he gets mad at me again. For the past 7 months he has slowly stopped socializing with all our friends, he does not like us going to our friend's place or going anywhere. I'm from another country and don't have any family here. When after one of his screaming episodes I threatened to leave him he said he would take my son away from me. I feel really isolated and depressed. I want to make our marriage work, but I feel like I'm losing my sanity on this roller coaster ride.
How can I stope all the yelling and cursing? I know this is having a very negative effect on my child.

[rosy32]

hey guys im suffering with the same prblm we got married 7mnts ago from the day 4 he started showing anger at me he says that every women should listen to her husband women shoulkd not get anger or any emotions she should not have any emotions when i shout at him.some times he breaks all the valueble things and sometimes he himself hits to wall or windows im afraid of his behaviour i dont know what to do.if show anger at him he will say that he will give divorse to me .he will never spend time with me.always he will shout or roar at me.what to do pls any one let me out of this guys

[kikibb]

I feel your pain.  Been here for 16 years.  Kids don't want me to divorce their dad, but we all live in misery because of his mood swings and mean words.  I wish I had a solution.  I married someone who can be a really great person/dad, then turns into a total a** at the drop of a hat.  He has taken to making little digs about me to the kids too.  I hate it.  And usually I hate him!  

[kikibb]

Hey...I'd really like to hear how you overcame your anger issues.  My husband and I have been married for 16 years and we have three children.  It seems his anger just gets worse and if it weren't for the kids, I'd leave him.  My brother and sister are divorced so I know this isn't a great decision and has a lot of repercussions.  I am really trying to hang on...
Thanks for any help!!

[rosienotsomuch]

do not count on change, the only thing you can do to change this is change your location from him....

[joelk59]

That is good advice!

[rosienotsomuch]

verbal abuse starts when you feel uncomfortable, not when the abuser tells you it does...take if from me, my husband tells me it is all me, I am too sensitive, but I know if it hurts you or makes you feel unworthy or demeaned then it is verbal abuse, no start time it just always was

[Stuckhereforever]

My husband of 5years was injured at work a couple of years ago about the same time or son was born. I always knew he had anger problems but he had already been to anger management and had never been angry with me. Well about a year or so ago he started getting really verbally abusive. He would tell me I was retarded call me an unfit mother and everything else you can think of. He even yells at me if I wake him up to get him to share the bed with me, the couch isn't exactly comfy. He also yells at our son for just about anything. He says it is because he feels worthless because he can't work and have to and that he doesn't mean it but why should we have to be yelled at because of it. It isn't our fault. I don't even have friends anymore because he would never let me talk to them do they just ignore me now . I dknt know what to do but it is really destroying me inside and probably my son too. Sorry this is so long just really needed to tell someone.