Aa
how to stop my husband from yelling at me?
My husband and I have been together for 7+ years and married for 4 years now and we have a 20 month old son. We are both working professionals. Ever since I have been pregnant, my husband has been yelling at me when he gets stressed out by any situation. If my alarm clock went off and I didn't turn it off quickly enough he would scream at me "TURN OFF THE F****ING THING". When our son was little and woke up at night to feed, he would scream at me if I didn't wake up quickly enough. When our son was sick and had a high temperature, he started screaming at me. Recently he got fired from his job, because he screamed at the HR. This morning our car's battery died and he started screaming at me. My reaction varies between complete confusion, to panic, to sometimes screaming back at him. I feel like I'm constantly walking on eggshells. After each screaming episode he would not talk to me for a few days and then act as if nothing happened and be overly nice to me. If I dare to bring it up with him, he gets mad at me again. For the past 7 months he has slowly stopped socializing with all our friends, he does not like us going to our friend's place or going anywhere. I'm from another country and don't have any family here. When after one of his screaming episodes I threatened to leave him he said he would take my son away from me. I feel really isolated and depressed. I want to make our marriage work, but I feel like I'm losing my sanity on this roller coaster ride.
How can I stope all the yelling and cursing? I know this is having a very negative effect on my child.
How can I stope all the yelling and cursing? I know this is having a very negative effect on my child.
He has no rights to stop you from going anywhere you want to go. It is your right to go anywhere if you want and I cannot stop you from traveling. I also get yelled at and I really do not like it. If he ever yell at you, curse at you, threatens to beat you up and or beats you up. Just call the police. He is the 1 that is going to be arrested, not you or your son. Sending him to prison should stop from yelling at you. In prison, they have very tough punishments that your husband does not want. It'll not kill him but it gives him lessons that he needs to learn and he really has to learn to talk in nice low tones. To tell you the real truth, nobody likes getting yelled at so we'll have to deal with it!
Hello, I need to write you back. When I was reading your story, it's exactly the same as mine. I have 3 children and going through absolutely the same what you are going through. I am also the foreigner here. How is the situation now? My husband yells at me constantly, insults me in front of my children. I used to react badly, now I am quite. IT's much worse, when I was yelling back and fighting with him. But I don't want to be as him. I don't want to behave like an primitive immature child. My small children are more mature then him. IT's very sad how he treats me, but I kind of got use to it. I am very sad and scared for my great children. I gave promise to stay in marriage. I don't break promises. I want my kids to be fine.
TIll I got married, my life was very good in every way, so I say, I need to have some cross in my life. MY husband is the one. Write me, if you can. Thanks. HOpefully thinks got better.
TIll I got married, my life was very good in every way, so I say, I need to have some cross in my life. MY husband is the one. Write me, if you can. Thanks. HOpefully thinks got better.
very touching indeed my heart went out to you i really hate to comment when i dont know the people involved but i must say ur husband doesnt appreciae you..and i also hate to see marrages not work but sometimes a seperation is what is needed so he can see what a wonderfull wife u truely are..then maybe he will change...fred
also when a guy yells or gets easilly jelious it means he cares for u deeply i know it sounds crazy but its true.i had a girl friend if she wanted to have a girls night out it would bother me i wanted all of her attension and i think the reason he acted like there was nothing wrong is because he didnt mean it from his heart at least i didnt..but this is what i wanted to tell u..theres a saying you dont know what u got till its gone.next time he ells at u take ur son to a hotell for a few days make him realize how lucky he is to have u and ur son then he will change..he can not take ur son i know in other countrys the father gets custody but not in america 99 percent of the time the father gets screwed and if u have ur son when u leave he will have to take u to court..life is way too short to live that way ..u need to ask ur self do u really love him?if u do u cant just sit back and take the abuse u need to make him realize what he has..dnt b afraid if he hits u he will go to jail and u will get ur son not him....goodluck...fred
there are really nice men out there that are lonely beaucse someone didn't treat them nice as well. Also you can be an amazing person without a man. Long story short, you DO NOT have to live with someone that doesn't appreciate you. Doesn't matter if there is a child /children involved. Some day they will respect you all the more for your strength and your choices.
this is much easier said that done. I have been married to thisman for 36 years. He has always managed to make ( or at least try to) me believe his rages are caused by the fact that I don't listen to him ( or give a damn enoiugh about him to listen) and he says it builds up in him until he can't take it anymore and has to 'tell' me about it. He insists that I think it is always about me, yet I spend SO much of my day wondering if I am doing what ever task the way he would want me to. Hoping it will please him and we can have a good day/evening. He can be very loving and romantic most of the time but there is this other side to him that scares me and the things he says to me are so cruel and hurtful. He even accused me tonight of unconsciously doing things to make his life difficult or hurt him. I am not that forward thinking. I end up being the one to apologise even though I know I am doing it just to make him 'love ' me again.
1 Comments
This is exactly what my husband says. Same thing...as if he was cut put of the same cloth.
He almost always starts this when I'm trapped in the car with him on a long trip.
Last night...I recorded him on my phone. I recorded 30 minutes of his 2 hour SCREAMING rant.
I'm not sure what to do with the recording. Play it for his Catholic Priest? IDK...
It always happens when he's doing something nice for me. Like taking me to a horse event I would enjoy and out to dinner.
I usually don't say much.
Saddly...it's almost humorous to watch a grown man throwing such a sever temper tantrum. Maybe that's my coping mechanism. I chech out and think about how pathetic and unhealthy his behavior is. He doesn't get the control of me he desires. That escalates his anger. He tries to coach me into calming him down by telling me what to say that would work for him. He gets himself into a mental cul-de-sac...repeating himself...screaming that I didn't listen to him the first time. (or 2nd, or 3rd...I guess...lol!)
Any suggestions??
How do you cope and put up with this behavior? It's like a living a nightmare!
He almost always starts this when I'm trapped in the car with him on a long trip.
Last night...I recorded him on my phone. I recorded 30 minutes of his 2 hour SCREAMING rant.
I'm not sure what to do with the recording. Play it for his Catholic Priest? IDK...
It always happens when he's doing something nice for me. Like taking me to a horse event I would enjoy and out to dinner.
I usually don't say much.
Saddly...it's almost humorous to watch a grown man throwing such a sever temper tantrum. Maybe that's my coping mechanism. I chech out and think about how pathetic and unhealthy his behavior is. He doesn't get the control of me he desires. That escalates his anger. He tries to coach me into calming him down by telling me what to say that would work for him. He gets himself into a mental cul-de-sac...repeating himself...screaming that I didn't listen to him the first time. (or 2nd, or 3rd...I guess...lol!)
Any suggestions??
How do you cope and put up with this behavior? It's like a living a nightmare!
You are reading content posted in the Anger Management Community
How do you keep things safer between the sheets? We explore your options.
Can HIV be transmitted through this sexual activity? Dr. Jose Gonzalez-Garcia answers this commonly-asked question.
A list of national and international resources and hotlines to help connect you to needed health and medical services.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
