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Baby trouble!
Hi, I have a 4 month old son named Charlie, He is almost 5 months old. Because of my anxiety I haven't been paying much attention to him and I'm only 17 so my mom hired someone to take care of him week days except for fridays, saturdays & sundays. I worry that something might happen to him if I don't care for him and to be honest I don't trust that lady with him one bit! I need help.. My boyfriend is busy with school but he does drop in from time to time. Is there a way I can make a schedule a time for him and me to look after Charlie, like shifts? I am also pregnant with another child. I really want to get rid of that lady.
OK, thanks everyone. I called the lady this morning and told her not to come back. Yesterday our families got together and worked out a plan and it goes like this. From monday to wednesday I have Charlie. From thursday to saturday he (my boyfriend) has Charlie. On sunday we all get together to do a fun activity and it goes on like that until Charlie's 2 birthday when hes old enough to go to daycare. After daycare Gabriel will pick up Charlie and drop him at my place. We havent gotten far we still need to talk things through, but thats what we got so far. Right now we are all just spending the weekend together and monday the switch will start.
You can get help on this site and I was only referring to what you yourself said. Also, I was not insuating you were ****. You wouldn't be on here if you didn't love your child. That is why I said to get help for the anxiety so that you can care for your own son, get your boyfriend involved because you can't do it alone, and don't forget about you and your life's dreams and goals.
The fact that I don't trust her is because I'v seen her smoke outside my house. Another time, my mom and I went to the store and left her with the baby and when we came back? He was alone.. now tell me who is doing a better job. I'v worked so hard in life and I'm getting there. I want to do the best I can for my family and my children. Sometimes I just want to run away but no I wont do that.. You know why? Because I love Charlie, and I love Gabriel and If I didn't want the two of them in my life? I would have been out of the door by now. No I'm not a ****, accidents happen. Thats life. You know what, I'm going to just do that you said and talk with him. He came over for the weekend so that me and him can look after Charlie together.
OK? That was harsh.. I never asked anyone to but there 2 cents in about my business, thats my problem.. Second, I only need some help, you didn't have to go fly off you mouth with painful words like that. Thanks a lot. I thought I could find support on this site but I guess not..
You have not mentioned the type of anxiety you suffer from that causes you to not pay any attention to your child. I'm also getting that your mom believes it isn't her responsibility, and it isn't BTW, and she is probably working anyway, and knows that this child needs care, love and attention. If you cannot provide these simple basic things, then yes your child needs someone to look after him. You don't trust this lady? It doesn't seem to me that you were doing a better job of taking care of him.
But here is the important thing...you can change this situation. I'm going on the assumption that your boyfriend is also the father of your second child? You need to sit down with both families and come up with a plan. It takes two to make a child and it doesn't seem fair that he is off to school while you are obviously not in school anymore. You need to figure out a way to earn your GED, look after your children with your boyfriend's help, and come up with a life plan for yourselves whether it be the two of you together or separate. I'm sure you are overwhelmed right now with the responsiblity of it all but these talks needs to happen. And I'm sure it goes without saying but a third child should not be in your immediate future. You CAN do this. You need to dig deep down inside, get help for your anxiety, and do what you need to do.
But here is the important thing...you can change this situation. I'm going on the assumption that your boyfriend is also the father of your second child? You need to sit down with both families and come up with a plan. It takes two to make a child and it doesn't seem fair that he is off to school while you are obviously not in school anymore. You need to figure out a way to earn your GED, look after your children with your boyfriend's help, and come up with a life plan for yourselves whether it be the two of you together or separate. I'm sure you are overwhelmed right now with the responsiblity of it all but these talks needs to happen. And I'm sure it goes without saying but a third child should not be in your immediate future. You CAN do this. You need to dig deep down inside, get help for your anxiety, and do what you need to do.
You're only 17 with a baby and one on the way? No wonder you have anxiety. You can get rid of this lady by taking care of your child. Are you in counseling? If not, I would highly recommend it. It could really help with your anxiety. I'm not trying to be harsh but can you say why you will have two babies at 17 years old? That is so very young. I hope things start getting better for you.
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