13 year old and feel worthless,help? Reply?

[katrinaMC]

My names katrina and I'm thirteen. My life was great,I was happy and loved school. This year around august about three weeks in,everything turned around. My anxiety came..I can't take it anymore. I have tried so much and nothing seems to help. I've been of school for two weeks,and I've been to scared to go out anywhere incase of a sick bug. As you know now,my anxiety is for being and feeling sick. I feel sick almost all day everyday, and fear being it, not only being it but feeling that way worries me. I've always had worries..of cancers such a breast cancer,ovarian cancer,boul cancer,as my grandparents had them,and there was more but back to my point. I now break down when I wake up in the morning. I burst into tears infront of my mum,telling her I don't feel well and I don't want to be near anyone. When I go to school, I feel awful, its impossible for me. I come home as soon as possible..I've been off for two weeks now,and I don't want to lack with school although they know. I break down at night sometimes too, I cried myself to sleep lastnight. I can't take stress,and I'm not good at handling this. I lost weight, about 2stone. My parents went into financual problems about three years ago, and I can't helpthinkong this may be a possibility of a Part of the reason. I can't explain how hard this is for me, I'm trying my absolute best to shine a light through it all,but being thirteen and all it's not easiest to push yourself on. I can't even go to asda anymore..i don't get much air anymore. Please,someone help me? I would do anything,this scares me so much, I don't want to be living like this. If you need to ask anything or are willing too help ill reply to all replies to this form. Thank you,so,so much. X x x

[katrinaMC]

thank you. Yeah I try a lot but sometimes just break down due to it. Knowing there's other people on here that also have the same problems it makes me feel a little more secure x

[dolphin8808]

I am so sorry huni, I know how hard being a teenager is let a lone when you have anxiety issues. My son is also 13 soon to be 14 and suffers from anxiety. I think he gets a lot of it from me. But the good thing is that since I suffer from it as well I am able to help him a lot. Your parents maybe able to help you more then you think. If you do not think your therapist is helping, see a new one and come on here to vent, it helps honey.

[katrinaMC]

I've currently been going to see people yeah, doctors and therapists and so on. I find it hard to tell this to my parents.. I've told them but I'm not sure they understand fully how I'm feeling. Iv arranged with school to in or two or three classes a day but even this isn't so helpful. I find it extremely hard to get through with this. You reminded me now I need to email the woman I've been talking too. She also told me to write down notes. I did it a few times an then stopped. My parents are aware of this and help,but my older brothers can sometimes get very annoyed. Someone made a joke with me a few days ago and said 'you better not be sick on the dashboard' as in in the car, I freaked out and burst into tears, throwing myself into bundles of stress. I try to get through and let go sometimes,but I need to find a strong enough link to make me want to get better, imagine myself in a beautiful place with the people I love. Thanks also for the help. X

[katrinaMC]

Yeah I do understand what you mean. Social anxiety is another big problem due to the feeling that you're lacking in friends. Seing that I don't go out I also feel that way. I asked my mum about home schooling but I'm not sure she really realised, an so I might write that or text her and tell her why. Thanks ever so much for the support,it's muchly appreciated x

[mammo]

Hi...are you in therapy for all of this?  Are your parents aware that something is wrong?  Often we don't know why we have anxiety and/or depression and therapy is a big help with this.  We can learn what is bothering us, address it and ease our anxiety.  Ask your parents to get you help and also start journaling all your thoughts and emotions...putting these things down on paper is a form of release for us and is very therapeutic...even if you just toss them away!  Talk to your school counselor to see what the school has to offer to help you.  I know you worry about the financial situation in your family, but you let your parents worry about this...they will get through it.  They love you and don't want you   feeling burdened by it, many families are struggling these days so know yours is not the only one.  If you find it hard to tell your mom all of this write it in a letter to her, when we have to read the words we hear what is being said.  She may be aware that something is bothering you but sometimes as parents we don't want to accept that our child is struggling because we tend to blame ourselves.  But it all comes down to them loving you and needing to know just how bad this is for you, between them and the school this can all be worked out.  There is so much help for you so try to stay positive.  I think it's wonderful that at 13 you've reached out for help, that's very mature of you and it's a start!!!  We're always here for you so never hesitate to talk to us.  Big hugs...it's going to be okay.

[Not_Hungry]

I'm 13 as well and I also have anxiety, but I have more social anxiety than anxiety over sickness. It sounds like this anxiety has built up over the years to reach this point, but it surprises me it's happened in only weeks. I think you should as your mom to take you to the doctor to get diagnosed with anxiety so he/she can give you proper medication. My friend has anxiety medication and she says she feels great, but to be honest she really didn't have that bad of anxiety in the first place. I know it may or may not be hard for you to ask your mom this, because I know for a fact I'm terrified to ask mine. But I suppose that's due to my anxiety (haha funny how it links back to everything) If you truely feel you can't go to school, talk to your mom about homeschooling. My (other) friend had social anxiety so she is going to be homeschooled for the rest of 8th grade then come back in 9th to see if she can deal with it better. If you feel the need, or the pill isn't working (if you got one) try taking a break from school for a while. But you can't just sit back and wait until you have to face school again, just gradually work with a friend/family member so you can gain control of your anxiety. Feel free to ask me more questions and I wish you the best of luck <3