I'm anxious about losing my sexuality as I get older

[weener]

I'm a 32 year old female, and my worst nightmare is looking old and dried up, and not being attractive anymore.  It may sound irrational but this rules my life.  I'm frightened that every thing is ageing me.  It is ruining my life.  Can anyone help?

[Paxiled]

Oh, I should add, looking dried up and such is more a result of lack of exercise and a bad diet, not aging.  Aging will bring its changes, mostly in body shape, but good organic vegetables will keep that glow about you longer.

[Paxiled]

Look, as you age, you will deviate more and more from what you've been told is attractive.  It will happen.  Nothing you can do about it.  You can forestall it with surgery and drugs, but it will come eventually, so why bother?  On the other hand, as one of the resident old fogies, sex becomes less important as you age, too, and it becomes much more a case of how you feel about someone than what they look like.  We'd all like to keep having sex with young attractive people, and rich people and celebrities manage to do it, but most of us don't.  This is part of living, but as they say, living long beats the alternative, so if you learn to adapt what you consider beautiful your partner probably will, too.  But at 32, you have a long way to go before you have to face this problem, so don't face it before you have to.  I know this is easier said than done for us obsessive types, but there it is.

[mbll2772]

If u feel old u will look old.Take a look at 29sillygirl.she could give you some advice.I bet you would never guess her real age.Im 38 and i fear of growing old too but take care of your body and mind and think young.You look young and beautiful in your pic.

[mammo]

Life is, and always will be what you make it.  Getting old certainly beats the alternative and you need to be grateful for every day because many are denied the priviledge of growing old. Worry about getting old will make you old, just live your life and don't miss a second of it.  We don't know if we even have tomorrow, so try not to worry so much about the future.  I suggest you seek therapy to overcome this obession.

[beelzebubba]

There are the typically stated things you can do... eat a healthy diet, exercise... blah blah blah. That is all fine and good. However I think one of the vital components to keeping young is feeling young... thinking young. My mother (rest her soul) was 89 and incredibly bright and youthful because she never lost her sense of humor or wonder. OK she was "an old lady" but people were attracted to her because of her spirit. She was a magnet of joy. So when she was in her earlier years, 50's and 60's she was still quite the dame... a real spitfire.
I think studchick is right though, if this concern is ruling your life literally, if it is causing behavior that impairs your ability to function, then you should talk to a councilor or therapist. If only to get an impartial opinion.
Keep strong!
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[AnnieBrooke]

It is quite possible to be sexually attractive for a long, long time.  Check out pictures of some of the hotter Hollywood women over 40, 50 and even 60 and you will see that they have come through with their sexuality intact.  

[studchick]

It sounds like you have an obsessive compulsive problem. Have you seen a counselor or psychiatrist? I care about aging, big time, but it doesn't control my life. Get some help and find out what you need be it counseling and/or meds. You don't have to live like that! Studchick