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Please help me im about to break down.
I need help.
Im 14 years old And my anxiety is too much for me to deal with.
I have a panic attack everytime im at home, i often go through de-realization (sp?)
It's causing physical pain on my chest, It gives me migraines.
I think to much and I always think myself into a panic attack.
I feel like what's the point in even trying anymore, im stuck with this, no matter how long I go without out one it always comes back for me. I have tried every coping method I have tried psychologists, and i just cant do it anymore.
Im constantly worrying
Im 14 years old And my anxiety is too much for me to deal with.
I have a panic attack everytime im at home, i often go through de-realization (sp?)
It's causing physical pain on my chest, It gives me migraines.
I think to much and I always think myself into a panic attack.
I feel like what's the point in even trying anymore, im stuck with this, no matter how long I go without out one it always comes back for me. I have tried every coping method I have tried psychologists, and i just cant do it anymore.
Im constantly worrying
I am dealing with this same problem right now! I recently lost my house and had to move back in with my parents. Even when I was in my house and had to come back home and visit I would make sure that it was only for a few hours. Now my parents aren't bad people but I feel like I can never please them so I try to avoid them as much as possible. I have talked to them about it and so has a councelor. The main person is my dad. I love my dad and I'm a daddy's girl, but if something doesn't go his way he just gives me this really bad feeling. I feel like I failed him somehow. I guess it's the constant worry to please them. And I know I'm not a failure! I work for the federal government in a co-op program and go to school at a well renouned university. I have done many things in my life for a 21 year old and people always ask why I'm not happy. I can't stay in one spot for too long but I hate change. It's like a constant cycle. Anyway , everytime I try to talk to them they keep telling me that I am just causing a pity party and I just want attention. Sometimes I just want to tell them that I just want their love.
I hope that you can find someone to help you. I am trying to find someone right now too. I actually have a friend that has bad anxiety too and she never knew that I was dealing with it til last year. But we are going to try and stick together and work it out. People who understand are more willing too help. Unlike a parent that thinks medication will fix everything. My mom thinks the same way. She is always wanting me to up my prescription.
I hope that you can find someone to help you. I am trying to find someone right now too. I actually have a friend that has bad anxiety too and she never knew that I was dealing with it til last year. But we are going to try and stick together and work it out. People who understand are more willing too help. Unlike a parent that thinks medication will fix everything. My mom thinks the same way. She is always wanting me to up my prescription.
Dear Kailazee:
I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. My son's 17 year old girlfried (I'll call her Babe) has a severe panic disorder and I myself have had panic attacks as well, so I can well imagine what you are going through. It must be very hard.
Like you, Babe has less than a happy home life with some really horrible stuff, and that stress can trigger her attacks. She takes Xanax when she feels an attack is likely and also takes Paxil. Many antidepressants are not recommended for teens, however if symptoms are severe enough, it is something to be considered.
Hopefully you do have one adult in your life that you trust to talk about this. Maybe a school guidance counselor, teacher or one of your friend's parents. If you are able to start talking about this, you'll probably find other people who have the same problem. It helps to be able to talk to other people and how they try to cope. I try to talk myself out of it, telling myself that it will pass and nothing bad has happened to me before. I also chew gum, to help me swallow and breathe a little bit better. I feel wiped out after a bad attack, but know that I got through it and can get through another one, when and if it happens.
One thing that you might want to think about is keeping a diary. Write about your day, the good things and bad things that happened and how you felt. If you have a panic attack or anxiety, think about what might be causing it. You might find over time that you do have triggers.
If you feel yourself starting to get anxious or a possible attack coming on, call a friend and talk to them. This might help to calm you. Just make sure it is a friend who cares about you and will listen and give you positive feedback.
And yes, I agree with you about a new psychologist. It's important to find one you trust and feel is listening to you. Maybe some adults can help recommend some good ones.
Take care and I hope that you find some relief and support.
Audrey
I am so sorry to hear what you are going through. My son's 17 year old girlfried (I'll call her Babe) has a severe panic disorder and I myself have had panic attacks as well, so I can well imagine what you are going through. It must be very hard.
Like you, Babe has less than a happy home life with some really horrible stuff, and that stress can trigger her attacks. She takes Xanax when she feels an attack is likely and also takes Paxil. Many antidepressants are not recommended for teens, however if symptoms are severe enough, it is something to be considered.
Hopefully you do have one adult in your life that you trust to talk about this. Maybe a school guidance counselor, teacher or one of your friend's parents. If you are able to start talking about this, you'll probably find other people who have the same problem. It helps to be able to talk to other people and how they try to cope. I try to talk myself out of it, telling myself that it will pass and nothing bad has happened to me before. I also chew gum, to help me swallow and breathe a little bit better. I feel wiped out after a bad attack, but know that I got through it and can get through another one, when and if it happens.
One thing that you might want to think about is keeping a diary. Write about your day, the good things and bad things that happened and how you felt. If you have a panic attack or anxiety, think about what might be causing it. You might find over time that you do have triggers.
If you feel yourself starting to get anxious or a possible attack coming on, call a friend and talk to them. This might help to calm you. Just make sure it is a friend who cares about you and will listen and give you positive feedback.
And yes, I agree with you about a new psychologist. It's important to find one you trust and feel is listening to you. Maybe some adults can help recommend some good ones.
Take care and I hope that you find some relief and support.
Audrey
Thanks guys, Im trying to talk my mom into a new psychologist, but my mom suggests medication solves everything so this is kind of hard, but thanks all of you.
Believe me when I say you are NOT alone!! I have struggled with anxiety and panic attacks and depression for years!! When I was your age I started therapy and it took awhile to find the right psychologist but I found one and it worked without medication. If you don't want to do that try talking to someone you trust...your school counselor, your best friend, anyone you can trust. I find sometimes just talking to a close friend will help. I also have lots of family to talk to as well that don't make fun of me or anything as I know that is probably a concern for you as well being a teenager. I am 31 now and still struggle with the anxiety and panic attacks. So please find someone to talk to that can help you get the help you need and to possibly stay with someone else for awhile like a grandparent or something. I'm sure everyone here can sympathize with what you're going through and like MrGreen said we all mean well and want to try to help you get through this.
I think she would find it hard to talk to her mum. They don't hit it off if you read her words. Her mother has a lot of problems of her own. So I think talking to the mother is out of the question. There was no mention of a father at all. Hence I didn't want to bring that up. But I may as well find out if one is there? And is he ok to talk to?
You will get various suggestions and answers. But trust me everyone is just trying to help you out. You might not agree with some answers. That's the way it works on any forum. But people only mean well. We want to see you getting better and getting the help you need.
You will get various suggestions and answers. But trust me everyone is just trying to help you out. You might not agree with some answers. That's the way it works on any forum. But people only mean well. We want to see you getting better and getting the help you need.
First of all let me say this. Being a teenager is very hard especially now a days. I don't mean to sound cliche but it's very true. I remember being a teenager. As teenagers, we are still trying to figure out who we are. We are insecure and constantly being judged by our peers. Even though we shouldn't we care what people think about us. It's a very hard time especially if we are not in the "in crowd". As we know, teens (kids) are very cruel to each other. I am 30 and finally realized that I don't give a **** what other people think about me, but I still feel insecure and feel like people are staring at me. Even though I am told that I am attractive, I don't feel it. It took a long time, and even now, at times I still feel like that teenager trying to fit in.
But, if what you are feeling is more than just "growing pains", and you seriously feel like you can't do it anymore, than you need to tell your parents you want to see a therapist. It's hard to express your feelings to your parents. Especially when you are a teen, you feel like the world is against you. But, speaking to somebody that is neutral will give a some insight as to what you are feeling. Is it the norm or is it more than that. Don't give up....you are always in charge of your life.....It may feel like the end of the world now, but I promise that you will not feel the same in the future. Like I said I remember being that age, I was so confused, but I promise it's worth sticking to. Don't give up, it will feel so good for you to talk with somebody who is neutral, whether it be doctor, therapist, or maybe even a adult friend of the family. And if what you are feeling goes above the "norm", the doctor will be able to prescribe medication to get you through these awful feelings.
Trust me when I tell you, you are NOT alone in how you feel. Life is hard and life for a teenager is very hard. Don't give up, believe it or not you have the power to make it better. Get help, please!
But, if what you are feeling is more than just "growing pains", and you seriously feel like you can't do it anymore, than you need to tell your parents you want to see a therapist. It's hard to express your feelings to your parents. Especially when you are a teen, you feel like the world is against you. But, speaking to somebody that is neutral will give a some insight as to what you are feeling. Is it the norm or is it more than that. Don't give up....you are always in charge of your life.....It may feel like the end of the world now, but I promise that you will not feel the same in the future. Like I said I remember being that age, I was so confused, but I promise it's worth sticking to. Don't give up, it will feel so good for you to talk with somebody who is neutral, whether it be doctor, therapist, or maybe even a adult friend of the family. And if what you are feeling goes above the "norm", the doctor will be able to prescribe medication to get you through these awful feelings.
Trust me when I tell you, you are NOT alone in how you feel. Life is hard and life for a teenager is very hard. Don't give up, believe it or not you have the power to make it better. Get help, please!
You need to talk to someone like a school counselor, parent or relative who can get you the help you need. Being under age this is not something you can do handle on your own. Start talking to someone about what you are experiencing and keep going until you find help. You are too young to be dealing with this kind of anxiety, and deserve to live a happy life. It sounds like home life is upsetting to you, so you may want to start with a close relative to help you. You're not alone with this, we hear from a lot of teens. But we're glad you're with us, and we're always here to offer support and help to you in any way we can. Sometimes just knowing you have others to talk to who understand can help a lot. Take care....
You got any relatives? Grandmother or anybody who your mum would allow you to stay with. Just to see if things pick up for you. It sounds like a hard home life. One you could do with a break from.
My home life, well it's so-so.
My mom is on a lot of medication and deals with things that affect our relationship such as, Bi-polar disorder, Manic depression, Stuff along those lines. Me and her are not close at all seeing as how she is addicted to different pain medications and what not.
It seems Im only happy away from home and panic at the thought of going back.
My mom is on a lot of medication and deals with things that affect our relationship such as, Bi-polar disorder, Manic depression, Stuff along those lines. Me and her are not close at all seeing as how she is addicted to different pain medications and what not.
It seems Im only happy away from home and panic at the thought of going back.
Hello There,
I think you should see someone, even if you have tried pdocs or what not. Find a counselor you can trust just to talk....just talk. It may help you get to the bottom of some of your thoughts. And if you need of do not need medication at your age. Your young to be on pills.
I know that is not the answer to everything but I do have a suggestion. I have GAD, I do not get panic attacks, but I get chronic, constant worry. When I spoke to my doctor he told me of a book. (He practices Meditation for stress). This book teaches you to quiet your over-working, over worrying thoughts. The author teaches you how to do this, and why we let our mind take over. At first when he told me about it I was skeptical but figured I would check it out anyway. I am almost finished it now and it is a wicked book. It's called "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. I know the name of the book sounds a bit flaky and spacey but it is VERY helpful for anxiety and just getting that "stillness" in your mind. It is VERY easy to read, follow and understand (the best part I like about this book).
Don't give up....there is help and this site is a great resource to know your not alone.
I think you should see someone, even if you have tried pdocs or what not. Find a counselor you can trust just to talk....just talk. It may help you get to the bottom of some of your thoughts. And if you need of do not need medication at your age. Your young to be on pills.
I know that is not the answer to everything but I do have a suggestion. I have GAD, I do not get panic attacks, but I get chronic, constant worry. When I spoke to my doctor he told me of a book. (He practices Meditation for stress). This book teaches you to quiet your over-working, over worrying thoughts. The author teaches you how to do this, and why we let our mind take over. At first when he told me about it I was skeptical but figured I would check it out anyway. I am almost finished it now and it is a wicked book. It's called "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle. I know the name of the book sounds a bit flaky and spacey but it is VERY helpful for anxiety and just getting that "stillness" in your mind. It is VERY easy to read, follow and understand (the best part I like about this book).
Don't give up....there is help and this site is a great resource to know your not alone.
Very young for such a big problem. Trust me when I say that you have a full life ahead of you and you will learn to live and enjoy yourself once more. These things can take time to sort out. The problem with a lot of people is they feel they want instant action and to be better with the click of their fingers. Sadly it doesn't work like that. There are a lot of things that need to be explored. Lot of undoing to be done. By now you have slipped into a routine. Odd that your home seems like the main trigger for the panic attacks. Most times that is our safe place. So with that in mind, if you don't mind me asking, how exactly is home life? Good. Bad. Bit of both. As it seems to be triggering off your panic. Can I ask what you are like outside of the home?
In a way you have answered the biggest of your own questions. As to why the panic. You think too much. But you are fully aware of that. Once we have time to think we pick up on things. Be it the slightest twitch in our arm, or hearing the heart beat. Once we pick up on it we begin to focus on it. Making things a lot worse. That in turn brings about thoughts. Then we react to these thoughts. The reactions bring about feelings. Which are our symptoms. One has a knock on effect on the other. The obvious thing to try would be to fill that empty time you have. Distraction. Don't allow yourself that time to think. Occupy the mind.
Also take note that setbacks do happen. I have had anxiety 20 years now. I have good days. I go out a lot.l Have fun. But the next day could be horrible. But I don't dwell on the bad day. I see it as just that. A one off bad day. If I was to think ' here we go again ', I am sure the next day would be just as bad. And the day after that too.
You mentioned nothing about medication. So I assume you are on nothing. I am not saying it is the answer. You are still young. I would try other options first. Theraphy can seem like a right pain. Getting you to talk the same rubbish over each session. I have been there myself. It is all about finding the right therapist. One who can teach you new skills. Ways of dealing with things. Give you an understanding of anxiety. They are great to work with once you do find the right one.
It is never easy. It takes a lot of fight. We are forced to face fears we hate the most. Go into situations we dislike. But it gets easier every time we do it. But you have to want to do it for you.
Can only hope things pick up for you. Keep with us here on the forum. We will help as best we can. Any questions, just ask away.
In a way you have answered the biggest of your own questions. As to why the panic. You think too much. But you are fully aware of that. Once we have time to think we pick up on things. Be it the slightest twitch in our arm, or hearing the heart beat. Once we pick up on it we begin to focus on it. Making things a lot worse. That in turn brings about thoughts. Then we react to these thoughts. The reactions bring about feelings. Which are our symptoms. One has a knock on effect on the other. The obvious thing to try would be to fill that empty time you have. Distraction. Don't allow yourself that time to think. Occupy the mind.
Also take note that setbacks do happen. I have had anxiety 20 years now. I have good days. I go out a lot.l Have fun. But the next day could be horrible. But I don't dwell on the bad day. I see it as just that. A one off bad day. If I was to think ' here we go again ', I am sure the next day would be just as bad. And the day after that too.
You mentioned nothing about medication. So I assume you are on nothing. I am not saying it is the answer. You are still young. I would try other options first. Theraphy can seem like a right pain. Getting you to talk the same rubbish over each session. I have been there myself. It is all about finding the right therapist. One who can teach you new skills. Ways of dealing with things. Give you an understanding of anxiety. They are great to work with once you do find the right one.
It is never easy. It takes a lot of fight. We are forced to face fears we hate the most. Go into situations we dislike. But it gets easier every time we do it. But you have to want to do it for you.
Can only hope things pick up for you. Keep with us here on the forum. We will help as best we can. Any questions, just ask away.
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