she wants me to succeed and my dad has high hopes for me to become this independant woman and all and thats what i want, to make them proud, its just their not really as understanding and at times feel pressure to be what they want even though they don't seem to like that i have a boyfriend. i completely ruined my relationship with my mom when i told her that i wasn't a virgin anymore when i lost it 2 years ago, so she doesn't really think or say much nice things about me anymore...
When it comes to school its tough because i can't focus on the work as well because of this worry i have. im always scared of failing and im worried that maybe im not cut out to be a registered nurse like i had always hoped to be. its a career i have always wanted and have been working on trying to get the pre-requisites done for the past 4 years at the community college, but i have been having trouble here and there and this obsessive paranoia hasn't been making it any better. its been making my performance worse.
everything seems to say im negative when it comes to pregnancy but in the back of my mind i always have this fear of it happening. And watching the show "i didn't know i was pregnant" doesn't make me feel any better at all lol pretty pathetic of me huh.
From what you described, I can tell you that you are not pregnant. Unless the condom spilled all over your boyfriends hands, and even then if he inserted his fingers inside of you, the likelihood of you getting pregnant is slim to none. Taking off a condom and then touching you, though, will not get you pregnant. Additionally, you can only get pregnant certain days of the month. I'm guessing that your period has changed because you are so stressed. This has happened to me several times in the past. My period will only last a day or two, and it's much lighter. You said that you took ten home pregnancy tests, and those tests are extremely accurate, so that should alleviate your worries of pregnancy. My best advice for you is that if engaging in sexual behavior makes you this anxious, you should abstain. If your boyfriend is truly loving, as you said he is, he will respect that. If not, you may want to reconsider being in a relationship with him.
As for college courses, are you able to lighten your load, or get help from a tutor? There is no changing your mother, so I don't really have any advice on that, but I'd like to believe she is strict because she cares about you.