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Im Hopless need advice quickly
I was just wondering is anyone an indoor person dosnt go out much dosnt get along with people and dosnt have many friends???? i mean if you are more of an indoor person your anxiety would be worse because you are not seeing many people. would it be worse? well i am having a bit of trouble i have alot of friends but its been hard for me to ring them to get intouch with them because every time i ask them they have something to do. Im so sad i dnt go out at all i stay home every day and this is making my anxiety worse. i get comments from my family like why are you always home GETOUT!!! see life and how am i supposed to get out when i have no one to go out with????? and my parents are over protected so they wont let me go out on my own. im starting to feel embarresed every time i walk past my mum or dad on the weekend and they see me alone. even my younger bro goes out way more then i do and i also get comments from him like you are lazy no one likes you find some friends this is definatly making my anxiety worse how can i find more friends and get out there and enjoy life without my parents having to judge me. plz tell me what to do thankyu
i probably know how you feel because i have a similar thing going on with me. most of my friends are committed so they prefer going with their respective gal or guy.
i am home all the time in vacation pouring over novels or tv.
i guess what Greenlydia has said is worth a try. you could pull your mom to go shopping with you or for movies or something.
no1 would mind you tagging a parent along if its shopping. i am 20 and i NEED my mom for shopping. i feel proud when i hear myself i am going with my mom.
and i guess for the time being u could follow Greenlydia's advice.
take care sweetums
lots of love
i am home all the time in vacation pouring over novels or tv.
i guess what Greenlydia has said is worth a try. you could pull your mom to go shopping with you or for movies or something.
no1 would mind you tagging a parent along if its shopping. i am 20 and i NEED my mom for shopping. i feel proud when i hear myself i am going with my mom.
and i guess for the time being u could follow Greenlydia's advice.
take care sweetums
lots of love
Wow! You have some real issues here, but none of them are unfixable.
You're 16 years old and I don't know what the attitude is in Australia about 16 y/o girls going out on their own. You say your folks wonder why you don't go out more but in the same breath you tell us they don't let you go anywhere alone. That COULD be one of the reasons your many friends seem to be avoiding you. Are your parents overly strict? If a bunch of your friends want to go to the mall or a movie, are you saying your parents need to tag along? Sorry, but at 16 if MY parents followed me and my friends around like a lost dog, I would soon have no friends either!
Would your parents be OK with you having your friends over to your house? Would they mind some loud music and chip crumbs everywhere or would they be really uptight about that? Would they be relaxed and maybe even make themselves a bit scarce so you could all just be yourselves and have a good time? Perhaps you could start with just a couple of good friends...............maybe even confide in them how you're feeling.
You say your parents judge you and most of us at 16 felt very judged by our parents, so I think that is really normal. Really annoying, but normal. Your brother sounds like a typical brother, so short sheet his bed and forget his comments. If you can't talk with your parents about your anxiety issues, I really think you need to find someone you CAN talk to about them. You need some help to deal with this anxiety before it really cripples you. Do you have an aunt or a friends mother you trust who you could confide in? What about a counselor at school or a teacher you're comfortable with. If you attend church, is there someone there you could talk to? I really think it would be worth the try to speak with your parents. I'm thinking they don't have any idea just how serious this is for you and once they did, they would help you in any way they could.
I hope I helped you even a little, but if you think I've misse the point entirely, PLEASE write back and we'll try again. We have many young folks here and they no doubt can relate a little better than I can to being 16.......it's been awhile for me, but it hasn't been THAT long since I had two 16 year old boys of my own............let us know if we need to think about this some more, OK? You're gonna be fine and we'll figure this out even if we have to get the entire forum involved!
Just hang in there, Sweetie!
Peace
Greenlydia
You're 16 years old and I don't know what the attitude is in Australia about 16 y/o girls going out on their own. You say your folks wonder why you don't go out more but in the same breath you tell us they don't let you go anywhere alone. That COULD be one of the reasons your many friends seem to be avoiding you. Are your parents overly strict? If a bunch of your friends want to go to the mall or a movie, are you saying your parents need to tag along? Sorry, but at 16 if MY parents followed me and my friends around like a lost dog, I would soon have no friends either!
Would your parents be OK with you having your friends over to your house? Would they mind some loud music and chip crumbs everywhere or would they be really uptight about that? Would they be relaxed and maybe even make themselves a bit scarce so you could all just be yourselves and have a good time? Perhaps you could start with just a couple of good friends...............maybe even confide in them how you're feeling.
You say your parents judge you and most of us at 16 felt very judged by our parents, so I think that is really normal. Really annoying, but normal. Your brother sounds like a typical brother, so short sheet his bed and forget his comments. If you can't talk with your parents about your anxiety issues, I really think you need to find someone you CAN talk to about them. You need some help to deal with this anxiety before it really cripples you. Do you have an aunt or a friends mother you trust who you could confide in? What about a counselor at school or a teacher you're comfortable with. If you attend church, is there someone there you could talk to? I really think it would be worth the try to speak with your parents. I'm thinking they don't have any idea just how serious this is for you and once they did, they would help you in any way they could.
I hope I helped you even a little, but if you think I've misse the point entirely, PLEASE write back and we'll try again. We have many young folks here and they no doubt can relate a little better than I can to being 16.......it's been awhile for me, but it hasn't been THAT long since I had two 16 year old boys of my own............let us know if we need to think about this some more, OK? You're gonna be fine and we'll figure this out even if we have to get the entire forum involved!
Just hang in there, Sweetie!
Peace
Greenlydia
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