anxiety about wife's affair before marriage

[confuse_Yogesh]

Hi... I am in big problem. I got married before 5 month. At our first night my wife told me that she had an affair, but from last 4 year it is over and she not even met him.She told me that her boyfriend was muslim. we are Hindu so I am in anxiety about muslim boyfriend of my wife. She loves me passionately.Please help me ... what I should do please...please..please

[Paxiled]

If you keep telling yourself that you'll keep making yourself miserable.  She's human, he's human -- different religions don't make us less human.  Actually, they don't really matter at all -- the moral teachings of all religions are pretty much the same, it's the tribal and ritual parts that divide us.  Get over it.  You'll be a happier person, and more understanding, and improve your karma as well!

[confuse_Yogesh]

I agree you.But I cant convince myself, how a hindu girl have affair with a Muslim.

[Paxiled]

You have to understand, most of the people on this site are from the US and UK.  We don't understand two things:  why it matters what happened before you got married, and why even more it matters what religion the person was.  Do you hate Muslims?  All of them?  Because Hindus and Muslims have been living side by side for a long long time, current politics aside, and who cares?  Would you like it if a Muslim or Christian or Taoist judged you by your religion?  Hinduism has a lot of complex parts to it, some religious, some tribal, some based on class, but the religious aspect includes the search for enlightenment and that involves acceptance and rising above judgment.  Perhaps this could be an opportunity for you to get in touch with the more spiritual foundations of your faith (I'm an American, and I practice daily a Hindu form of meditation without being Hindu.  I learned from your faith.  I know you can too).  Peace.

[des900]

so if he is hindu you have no problem? not understand the logic.

[confuse_Yogesh]

But he was muslim this the problem because I am.hindu

[des900]

so whats the problem? that old thing have already gone past. also nothing can be done regarding it then why worry.

[confuse_Yogesh]

no she is not in contact.I know she loves me very much I can feel that because she not hide it from me and not lie to me.But there is only problem that we are hindu and her boyfriend was muslim this is cause of my anxiety

[des900]

if she is still having a relation with him then do something otherwise just forgive and forget.