Dear Mam,
Thank you for your kind words.
I will try seeking a doctor for help.. there is so much of stigma associated with asking help for that sort of thing here.. and I'm really not sure if the doctor can help because I respond only to certain kinds of people.. Some people make me feel better, others dont.
Atleast I will try getting the thyroid test done..
I don't know.. I'm just hoping I get out of this feeling of inadequacy.. I've been living with it for nearly six years.. Some memories where some teachers and academicians and fellow peers ridiculed me for my slowness and dumbness still hurt.. the pain is almost physical.. I sometimes think voluntary and selective amnesia if there was such a thing would be much better..
thanks for ur help.
I feel your pain. I have experienced these same feelings many a time.
I'm sorry for what you are going through, and I wish I could hug you and make it all go away...but I can't...so I will try my best to help you through this with written words.
Your parents love you regardless! They want what's best for you, not what's best for them. ( I'm a mother of 4, so I know this to be true. We all have high hopes for our children, but if they want to be retail clerks instead of doctors then that's ok...as long as THEY are happy with what they are doing. Only very anal/controlling parents would openly bash their child for not being who the parents want them to be.) You could start by talking to them...tell them what you are going through...find a way to help them to understand.
I would start with your mother, as you have mentioned how wonderful she is.
My eldest son has always suffered from depression...he came to me when he started having vivid dreams and suicidal thoughts. I wish he would have come to me sooner...but that's the past...now he's on the right medications and he's doing quite well. It took him many years to finish high school, and now he's taking an accounting course.
I'm wondering if perhaps your depression was not just brought on by rejection, but perhaps some sort of deficiency...lack of certain vitamins and nutrients. You claim to be eating just fine, but are you eating the right things? You said you have been checked for diabetes, but were you also checked for thyroid problems?
Allergies can cause these symptoms as well.
As for the eating without weight gain...it could be your metabolism...or thyroid problems.
You are not dumb, stupid, etc. You sound very well educated, and you said yourself that you "used to get higher marks"...which means that you are totally capable of doing so again...proving that you are not stupid. We need to get you out of this stupor, and then perhaps your marks will begin to climb once more.
Your self esteem has just been shattered due to rejection...this is typical of heartbreak...sad, but true.
Please see your doctor and have him/her check your thyroid. Thyroid issues can cause many problems including " brain fog ".
Adult ADD/ADHD could be another thing to look at.
Either way, you are depressed...and you need help with that...many things can cause depression, so you will need to be tested and asked questions to determine what is causing it.
Your doctor will be able to help you, or at least put you on the right train towards help.
Your parents and doctor are vital to your recovery. Please seek help...don't be afraid or embarrassed. Everyone goes through some sort of depression at one time or another.
We are here if you need to talk...don't be sorry...that's why we are here.