torn, confused

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i am 18 years old. i have no idea what i want to major in at university. Part of me wants to fashion design but i feel i am not talented or good enough. a little but of me wants to study psychology but i feel i am not smart enough or i wont fit with it well. I am so so confused. i am running out of time.

Brentm48093 · Accepted Answer

Madie, some of the greatest people I've ever known are in their 40's and they still don't know what they want to be when they 'grow up.' You are in a pivotal time in your life and, believe me, I know it can seem like your decision right now makes or breaks your future...it doesn't. If you're having trouble deciding, I suggest you take your first year and focus on your core competencies and figure it out. I changed majors 2 times, dropped out of University, worked for a few years, went back to school and I'm here in my stable job today, raising my daughter and living in financial security. The great thing about life is, while you can't see what lies ahead, you can always change your direction and head to where you need to be, even if it's not necessarily where you want to be right now.
If I could recommend anything more specific, shoot for a Liberal Arts degree.

And always remember that you in life, unlike high school, 'fitting in' doesn't mean $h1t. Carve out your own piece of the world for you to fit into. Never think that because you're not part of the "in crowd" that it somehow makes you less valuable. Determine your own value. Fit into your own crowd. You'll find that others like yourself, who also think they'll never fit in, are all around you.
Be strong, be confident, work hard...and enjoy these years. You'll look back on them one day when you're as old as me and say to yourself, "You know, that wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it'd be.
Best of luck, ma'am...

Brentm48093 · Answer

My pleasure, ma'am

madie731 · Answer

thank you so much :) i will always keep that in mind :) xxoo

madie731 · Answer

Thank you so much for the help and great words of wisdom :) they mean alot :) you have really helped me :) and changed my view on certain things :)

Paxiled · Answer

Stop being in such a hurry -- neither of those majors require you to make an immediate decision.  It's pretty hard to know at 18 what you want to do with your life.  Try out some courses in each and see what pleases you.  As to your self-doubt, everyone has that, some just don't manifest it.

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