time with others

[Alex_X_18]

I am starting to notice something about myself that kindof disapoints me,
that I feel a constant need to be around others.
On one hand its really nice to socialize and be a part of social groups hangout with
friends and such and nowdays I do that alot and its very rarely that I feel lonely but sometimes I wish there were things I enjoyed more by myself.
Its seems like I rarely game or watch tv unless someone else is there with me
despite the fact that we have 400 chanels  here at the house and $300 worth of playstation games.
Even when it comes to studying I noticed I prefer to study with a partner and some flash cards.
I think I need some more hobbies or some typeof creative outlette to better a relationship with myself but I can't really think of anything I enjoy doing or that I'm good at...
Is the whole wanting to be around people thing some type of insecurity??
or is it just me??
could there be something I could do to get rid of it???
does anyone else here have this problem?

[Alex_X_18]

I noticed My moodswings were the worst when I had my own apt and lived on my own,....
sometimes I do worry about living all alone
I don't think I would be able to take that very well
I do like myself to some extent I wouldn't dislike myself if others didn't like me,.....
Maybe I'm just a people person but I wish I enjoyed time alone more
and did more productive things alone I used to really enjoy Tv and viedo games alot
but now it seems hard to find something I am intretsed in doing (at least when im by myself)

[Alex_X_18]

being around others is not so mucha big problem I just wish I enjoyed time alone more and really had more things I am passionate about

[rmevans]

I used to be that way when I was hypomanic, so if this is something new, that could be it.  I'm like the others in that a lot of the time I tend to isolate and spend most of my time alone.   When I am around people I am comfortable with though, I hate having to go home.  

I don't have any hobbies either and can't think of things I would like to do.  That would probably make us feel more comfortable in our own skin and improve our self esteem.  

It could possibly be just the way you are though.  If it is really bothering you, discuss it with a counselor.  If you are in school, you should have some sort of counseling center and maybe groups that discuss the issues you are concerned with.  I would start there.

[lindahand]

You may just be a really strong extrovert and that socialization and being part of a group is just your personality. If when you are alone you can't handle it emotionally then you may want to talk it over with a therapist. It may be that the quiet is uncomfortable for you because of some underlying issues. The other thing is you may be hypomanic which would lead to some of the same behaviors. You may want to watch that.

I am like paranoid Cataclysm and Iadvocate in the sense that when I am depressed I withdraw and don't want to see or talk to anyone. If I recognise (or DH tells me) I am hypomanic I want to be the life of the party but stay at home to save myself embarrasment. When I am stable I like a mix of alone time and being social. Too much of either one wears me out.

[paranoid_cataclysm]

I used to have the same problem ILADVOCATE had a great deal and still do to an extent although now I am trying to get out more with people.  I used to intentionally isolate myself to get away from people.  I even told my best friend once if I lived with him I would want a lock on my room's door and to be left alone most of the time which I later apologized for because that isn't the way I am now that I am on medication.

[ILADVOCATE]

Well when I wasn't doing well I always avoided people or at least wanted to. I do know self definition can sometimes be difficult for some people but socialization is generally more productive than isolating. I'd say that you might want to think of what specific interests you have and what creative work you might find enjoyable as part of it. That would be a worthwhile effort. There are many things such as music, art, reading, etc. I always found there was something at the library worth reading and it could just be entertaining. I also borrow cd's and dvd's as well, sometimes for entertainment, sometimes for education. Non fiction books on light topics can be a fun read. Generally television and the like only encourages isolation so its best watched with other people. As regarding studying people often study in groups and I do remember when I was at college I often found specific group projects to be of help. I would dedicate some time to studying at home but to be honest it was more difficult. Insecurity as a whole depends how someone defines themselves with other people and the essential to is to be a separate individual that's part of a group. That is worth discussing with a therapist.