This will be my second child, so I will have one boy and one girl. This is also my second failed attempt at finding a good guy for myself and kids. I have had issues with every kind of birth control since my first, and when I was talking to someone the other day it got me thinking that maybe I should get my tubes tied.
There are so many guys out there that will actually refuse to date a woman with kids just because they aren't "their" kids as they like to put it.
For a long time I'd hoped the next father of my child was going to be a keeper, and that would be super special. But now I will already have two kids by two different Dad's and I don't want any future guys to alienate my kids just because they aren't blood related. I also don't want the chance of anymore kids from another deadbeat dad. And since I avoid birth control from all the bad side effects... pretty much all that lead me to think I should just get them tied and be done with it. When I researched it, I read that clamps and ties can be undone, but may prove uncomfortable, and some have still gotten pregnant from them. My doctor wants to sear the cords, so make it completely perminant, and though she said it is possible for a procedure to unclamp or untie, she says they are usually not successful for conception again.
I have pretty much decided just to do the perminent one since I doubt I'd be able to afford the replacement procedure anyways, and to avoid future temptations and just leave things open to maybe adopt instead if I ever do choose to have other kids.
My son says he would like brothers/sisters after this, but with how hard this pregnancy has been I honestly don't think I could handle another one.
Still this is a very big decision, and I have less than 6 weeks to change my mind. So, I would really appreciate some others opinions.