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Lost Libido and Implanon
Hello,
I am a 28 year old engaged mom of two, with a huge problem. I have lost my libido, I have no interest in sex most times. Some days I might get a fleeting time of arousal but more times than not, I'm just not in the mood. This is a recent problem, I would say only starting after the insertion of my implanon. The only other change that has happened is that my fiance and I have moved in together. I don't know what to do, I consulted my doctor and didn't get any answers there. This issue has been causing fights between us, he doesn't seem to understand that it is not my lack of attraction to him, it's just how I feel. His thinking is that if I do love him, I should want to have sex as a way for us to be closer and nothing should make me not feel that way. He's starting to believe that it's him, and no matter how much I tell him it's not, it does no good.
My first question is, whether or not anyone else has gone through or noticed this after getting implanon? Second question, could it really be the implanon ( as in has it been documented to cause loss of libido)? And third is if I get it removed, how long should I give it before things kind of go back to normal? Like I said, we hadn't had an issue before with this. In fact it took very little to turn me on... Sorry if TMI. I'm just tired of the fighting, but I don't want to be unrealistic when it comes to getting this thing removed...
The other side effects I can live with, but this one is making my life hell literally!!
I am a 28 year old engaged mom of two, with a huge problem. I have lost my libido, I have no interest in sex most times. Some days I might get a fleeting time of arousal but more times than not, I'm just not in the mood. This is a recent problem, I would say only starting after the insertion of my implanon. The only other change that has happened is that my fiance and I have moved in together. I don't know what to do, I consulted my doctor and didn't get any answers there. This issue has been causing fights between us, he doesn't seem to understand that it is not my lack of attraction to him, it's just how I feel. His thinking is that if I do love him, I should want to have sex as a way for us to be closer and nothing should make me not feel that way. He's starting to believe that it's him, and no matter how much I tell him it's not, it does no good.
My first question is, whether or not anyone else has gone through or noticed this after getting implanon? Second question, could it really be the implanon ( as in has it been documented to cause loss of libido)? And third is if I get it removed, how long should I give it before things kind of go back to normal? Like I said, we hadn't had an issue before with this. In fact it took very little to turn me on... Sorry if TMI. I'm just tired of the fighting, but I don't want to be unrealistic when it comes to getting this thing removed...
The other side effects I can live with, but this one is making my life hell literally!!
Hi, I'm 24, I have visited this website dozens of times in the past 3.5 years mainly to re-assure myself that i wasn't going mad and that there were hundreds of people going through the same thing. I think it's time i give back now.
This is my story, I had a depo shot 4 years ago it lasted 3 years, I had no idea what was involved or what it would do to me, the next morning I woke up and had a massive amount of anxiety running through me I quit my job that day and stayed in the house for days, I never even thought the shot caused this i just thought it was stress.
A few months later I decided to get the implanon mainly because I didn't trust the pill. (I had just started a serious relationship and we are still together now, i don't know how or why my boyfriend put up with me some of the time). The implanon was fantastic at the start, until I kept having these panic attacks and random bouts of deep depression i would cry at work secretly or in the shower, anywhere everywhere. I had previously had depression as a teenager but it was nothing serious. This was beyond anything i had ever experienced, and i can tell you it lasted the whole time i was on the implant, until maybe the last 3 months.
The implant without a doubt changed my personality (this sounds insane but i think it made me a more considerate and compassionate person because i understood a lot more about depression, and i'm grateful for experiencing that, i also do a lot for my boyfriend because i know i've been a bit of a cow in the past.) honestly though, it put me in a very very dark place, I considered taking my life at one point and I would not be surprised if a lot of people on the implanon would feel the same.
I tell people i have the implanon and every single person i have told that knows what it is knows somebody with the implanon who has completely changed as a person.
My implanon was due out at the start of this year, the doctor couldn't locate it and I had to wait 4 months to go into hospital to get it out, I had it out 4 days ago, It was a bit of a struggle it was attached to some nerves and I felt quiet a bit of pain, most people don't go though this. I was one of the people who was scared that i'd still feel insane once i got the implant out, but i can tell you it's day 4 and i'm feeling a weight lifted off my shoulders. The first 24 hours weren't great i felt fairly anxious and depressed i think it was my body adjusting. now i feel great, i was considering getting the implant back in while they were taking it out (stupid idea) lucky i didn't because that thing really did mess with my body and mind.
I'm not on any birth control at the moment i will go on the pill in a few weeks. (my mother and sister both said they were sensitive to hormonal birth control so i might end up feeling the same on the pill who knows)
My advice would be get that thing out, i know it's hard and i know everyone wants to wait it out, it might work, it also might mess up your life more than it is now. I experienced, lack of energy, depression, anxiety, personality change, bloating and other things. I however didn't gain weight i lost it, mainly through anxiety I also ended up with normal-ish periods by the end.
There are articles explaining why this implant is so bad for your body. I think it was too strong for my body i am 52kg and 5'4, i feel that at the start too much was being released and i was just overwhelmed. It's also fairly awful to have no break from hormones at all for 3 years. I think the implant made me gain a distrust for doctors, none of them seemed to be concerned with what i was going through and all told me it had nothing to do with the implant, most women know their bodies well enough to tell where there moods are coming from, these moods were just not me. I was also tired a lot and i did have massive dips in libido.
I feel for every one of you that are struggling with the implanon or nexplanon, it's hard and it seems like the right idea at the time.
This is my story, I had a depo shot 4 years ago it lasted 3 years, I had no idea what was involved or what it would do to me, the next morning I woke up and had a massive amount of anxiety running through me I quit my job that day and stayed in the house for days, I never even thought the shot caused this i just thought it was stress.
A few months later I decided to get the implanon mainly because I didn't trust the pill. (I had just started a serious relationship and we are still together now, i don't know how or why my boyfriend put up with me some of the time). The implanon was fantastic at the start, until I kept having these panic attacks and random bouts of deep depression i would cry at work secretly or in the shower, anywhere everywhere. I had previously had depression as a teenager but it was nothing serious. This was beyond anything i had ever experienced, and i can tell you it lasted the whole time i was on the implant, until maybe the last 3 months.
The implant without a doubt changed my personality (this sounds insane but i think it made me a more considerate and compassionate person because i understood a lot more about depression, and i'm grateful for experiencing that, i also do a lot for my boyfriend because i know i've been a bit of a cow in the past.) honestly though, it put me in a very very dark place, I considered taking my life at one point and I would not be surprised if a lot of people on the implanon would feel the same.
I tell people i have the implanon and every single person i have told that knows what it is knows somebody with the implanon who has completely changed as a person.
My implanon was due out at the start of this year, the doctor couldn't locate it and I had to wait 4 months to go into hospital to get it out, I had it out 4 days ago, It was a bit of a struggle it was attached to some nerves and I felt quiet a bit of pain, most people don't go though this. I was one of the people who was scared that i'd still feel insane once i got the implant out, but i can tell you it's day 4 and i'm feeling a weight lifted off my shoulders. The first 24 hours weren't great i felt fairly anxious and depressed i think it was my body adjusting. now i feel great, i was considering getting the implant back in while they were taking it out (stupid idea) lucky i didn't because that thing really did mess with my body and mind.
I'm not on any birth control at the moment i will go on the pill in a few weeks. (my mother and sister both said they were sensitive to hormonal birth control so i might end up feeling the same on the pill who knows)
My advice would be get that thing out, i know it's hard and i know everyone wants to wait it out, it might work, it also might mess up your life more than it is now. I experienced, lack of energy, depression, anxiety, personality change, bloating and other things. I however didn't gain weight i lost it, mainly through anxiety I also ended up with normal-ish periods by the end.
There are articles explaining why this implant is so bad for your body. I think it was too strong for my body i am 52kg and 5'4, i feel that at the start too much was being released and i was just overwhelmed. It's also fairly awful to have no break from hormones at all for 3 years. I think the implant made me gain a distrust for doctors, none of them seemed to be concerned with what i was going through and all told me it had nothing to do with the implant, most women know their bodies well enough to tell where there moods are coming from, these moods were just not me. I was also tired a lot and i did have massive dips in libido.
I feel for every one of you that are struggling with the implanon or nexplanon, it's hard and it seems like the right idea at the time.
After reading some comments above it has confirmed my fears but also helped me understand mine and my girlfriends situation.
We got together November of last year and from the off had an amazing sex life and became incredibly close so quickly. She has had the implant for about 2 and a half years and around December/January she started bleeding irregularly over the course of 2 weeks. She went on the pill to stop this and for a period of afew days/ a week, we were back to normally and managed to have good sex in that time...then the bleeding started again. We presumed in was that the implant had lost its potency and got it changed.
Since having it changed the bleeding remained irregular so was given a pill of a lower dosage of hormones to be taken 3 times a day to combat the bleeding, which she was told there would be no side effects that would effect sex drive, depression (she's had a history of depression fyi) etc. Since the change we have had little to no sex over the past month. Were currently trying to ween her off this pill to just having the implant to see if its stops the bleeding and that she regains her sex drive back, but naturally I am extremely worried. At the moment she doesnt want to hug me, kiss me or even hold my hand, let alone have any kind of sex with me. This leaves me feeling horrible and helpless, as I know its not my fault but is leaving me feel like complete s***.
We love each other so much but the tension and upset that this is causing its getting unbearable, however I am willing to wait as long as it takes and do what ever it takes to get us back to having a healthy relationship and the strong sexual relationship we once had.
Any help, advice, words of wisdom would be great!
We got together November of last year and from the off had an amazing sex life and became incredibly close so quickly. She has had the implant for about 2 and a half years and around December/January she started bleeding irregularly over the course of 2 weeks. She went on the pill to stop this and for a period of afew days/ a week, we were back to normally and managed to have good sex in that time...then the bleeding started again. We presumed in was that the implant had lost its potency and got it changed.
Since having it changed the bleeding remained irregular so was given a pill of a lower dosage of hormones to be taken 3 times a day to combat the bleeding, which she was told there would be no side effects that would effect sex drive, depression (she's had a history of depression fyi) etc. Since the change we have had little to no sex over the past month. Were currently trying to ween her off this pill to just having the implant to see if its stops the bleeding and that she regains her sex drive back, but naturally I am extremely worried. At the moment she doesnt want to hug me, kiss me or even hold my hand, let alone have any kind of sex with me. This leaves me feeling horrible and helpless, as I know its not my fault but is leaving me feel like complete s***.
We love each other so much but the tension and upset that this is causing its getting unbearable, however I am willing to wait as long as it takes and do what ever it takes to get us back to having a healthy relationship and the strong sexual relationship we once had.
Any help, advice, words of wisdom would be great!
The same is going on for me non-stop but with implanon I'm not having any period pains where as before hand I almost fainted from them.
My girl had the Implanon put in when we were in the UK at the end of 2009. I didn't really realise it but all the times I thought she was being so difficult. Its this implant as at night she pushes me away and I know she loves me but she just doesn't feel comfortable.
Her periods are very irregular. We have sex when we get the chance but then she is straight back on another period which can last for weeks. We had a new implant inserted in Thailand and no doctor mentioned these side effects (lack of sex drive).
I am a man, and I have felt so guilty as I need to get off during the periods of no sex, so when when she is ready for sex often, I have let one go the day before, then she thinks I'm not performing well anymore. Many of our problems could be down to this implant.
Please get back to me on your feelings.
jamey
Her periods are very irregular. We have sex when we get the chance but then she is straight back on another period which can last for weeks. We had a new implant inserted in Thailand and no doctor mentioned these side effects (lack of sex drive).
I am a man, and I have felt so guilty as I need to get off during the periods of no sex, so when when she is ready for sex often, I have let one go the day before, then she thinks I'm not performing well anymore. Many of our problems could be down to this implant.
Please get back to me on your feelings.
jamey
My girl had the Implanon put in when we were in the UK at the end of 2009. I didn't really realise it but all the times I thought she was being so difficult. Its this implant as at night she pushes me away and I know she loves me but she just doesn't feel comfortable.
Her periods are very irregular. We have sex when we get the chance but then she is straight back on another period which can last for weeks. Please guys and girls reply to me, it seems that this is not just a minority here. We had a new implant inserted in Thailand and no doctor mentioned these side effects (lack of sex drive).
I am a man, and I have felt so guilty as I need to get off during the periods of no sex, so when when she is ready for sex often, I have let one go the day before, then she thinks I'm not performing well anymore. Many of our problems could be down to this implant.
Her periods are very irregular. We have sex when we get the chance but then she is straight back on another period which can last for weeks. Please guys and girls reply to me, it seems that this is not just a minority here. We had a new implant inserted in Thailand and no doctor mentioned these side effects (lack of sex drive).
I am a man, and I have felt so guilty as I need to get off during the periods of no sex, so when when she is ready for sex often, I have let one go the day before, then she thinks I'm not performing well anymore. Many of our problems could be down to this implant.
My girlfriend has been on this for a few months now and we have gone from having sex almost daily to having sex once a month. Literally, it's been three times in the past three months (only once sober). I can't take it. I'm being as supportive as possible because I know that Implanon is the only birth control she can take due to a bunch of other problems (she gets horrible migraines with most of the other birth control methods, amongst other things). Reading the comments above, I fear that our relationship is going downhill because of this. As one of you said, you don't even like your boyfriend kissing you or hugging you anymore, and that's exactly where we are right now. And yes, I do feel like she is repulsed by me even though I know it's just the side effects. My question is, since she can't really use any other form without worse side effects, is there anything we can do to increase her sex drive while she's still using Implanon? If not, I'm not sure how much longer we're going to last. The tension has been causing us to fight almost every day now
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