reluctent care giver

[TexasRed973]

mom has a 8 cm tumor in her right breast, a smaller 4-5 lump in her left breast. Last November the right breast suddenly opened up-like a staph infection and bled 24 cc of blood and pus for six weeks. It finally stopped. Two days ago, the same place reopened and started to bleed and have pus again, but this time tissue also started coming out.
She won't go to a doctor and I'm not sure how much I can handle. I don't know what to do next other than drain and put Poise pads over the area every day. Any help??

[japdip]

Yes, it's even harder than that but I feel that we all have some "rights" and as Good Children we should honor those of our parents .... especially our Mothers. In years past I have had a few friends that felt that way but did finally relent near the end to accept some sort of palliative treatment for the sake of comfort and whatever quality of life could be found. My best to your Mother and hope and pray that she can find some measure of relief but yet have "her way".  Kindest regards ....

[TexasRed973]

Dear J, thanks, Mom has been hurting in her hips and breast so I reminded her we can get palliative medicines. She said it may have finally come to that. She may consent to going to the doctor soon!. She doesn't want any surgery but will be will to take pain meds at this late stage. It's so hard to abide by their wishes and to try to tell them what to do. I give her the options and go by what she wants.
Thanks again.  

[japdip]

Sorry but your last comment to me on the Community was on another thread .... I attempted to copy and move it and have the other one deleted ... evidently the monitors deleted both comments; the one here as well as the one on someone else's thread. If you can spare the time you might post it again or at lease something similar ... Vent as much as you wish ... even if we can't help we can certainly listen/read :)  Thanks

[japdip]

I see that you certainly must have much more than you can handle at this point. Some how ... some way you MUST get your Mother to a Dr.!!! Perhaps other family members or even get her there under false pretenses such as even needing help with changing the dressing. What you describe absolutely MUST have medical attention. Perhaps you could see the Dr. on your own and have some type of home visit from a Nurse set up to get the wheels in motion. Evidently she isn't going anywhere so someone is going to have to come to her. I am so sorry for you situation and I hope you can find some sort of solution to benefit both you and your Mother. It's quite a chore to tell our parents what to do .... makes you wonder how they managed US. Kindest regards .... and best of luck .....