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cat grieving..??
hello, i was given a cat from someone who is no longer able to take care of it...the cat was well taken care of...shots, spade, declawed and it will be 2 years old next month...the first night she was at our house she didn't come out from under the couch, didn't eat/drink/toilet...so when we got home the next day from work around 5 pm and she was STILL in the same spot we got her out and she was friendly and seemed to be getting somewhat used to her new environment....i thought all was well until i was awakened by her loud crying in the middle of the night....she was also panting and acting like she was starved for attention...as soon as i would stop petting her she would cry (LOUDLY)...is she grieving the loss of her previous owner? is this going to stop soon, i am wondering because i can't take another night of no sleep...i work full-time and i have a 21 month-old son....any suggestions/advice would be greatly appreciated...thanks!!!
Glad to hear kitty is settling down. The many trips to a kitty therapist must have seemed financially ominous. :)
thank you for all of your suggestions...last night i only heard miss kitty once and i was able to go back to sleep just fine...i believe that she is really just getting used to her new environment and i cannot blame her for being scared..i was nervous thinking that this would last for a very long time...hopefully it only gets better from here!!! i bought her some new toys and made sure to play w/ her before going to bed and gave her some extra attention...i think that is all she needed. (fingers crossed!!) so...thanks everyone!!!
my friend has had success with Dr Bach's Rescue Remedy with her dog. I did a quick search about it and cats and it seems like people use it for kitty's too. You can find it at pretty much any human health food store and I've seen it at tons of fancyschmancy pet stores too.
I don't like to suggest this but you can try a kitty valium and see if a week or two of that causes a permenant change. I'd suggest going homeopathic at first (although I'm new to the whole homeopathic experience. Any else here have any advice?)
Otherwise...is there anything in the area outside going on at night that could be causing this? Perhaps a neighbor has a sonic alarm they turn on at night, or there's traffic or construction that could be causing noise/vibration that's scaring kitty?
Otherwise...is there anything in the area outside going on at night that could be causing this? Perhaps a neighbor has a sonic alarm they turn on at night, or there's traffic or construction that could be causing noise/vibration that's scaring kitty?
You are doing a wonderful thing! Hang in there. She will get used to you and love her new home!
another sleepless night...it seems like she only does this at night. she doesn't make a peep during the day...i am not sure i have the patience for this...i mean i am sure i can seriously grow to love this cat but i am tellin' ya right now it's pretty difficult....one of the things i like most about cats is that they're independent...this is NOT what i had in mind. it is only night #3 though so i am trying to be PATIENT but patience has never been one of my strong points....i just don't want her to wake my son...she is SOOOO loud. thank u to everyone who has responded...wish me luck...=(
Hopefully it will. I'd say if she keeps hiding, pull her out once a day and pay some attention to her. Be sure to do it in a way that doesn't make her feel hunted/persecuted if possible.
Cats are just like people, sometimes sudden changes can cause lasting emotional damage. It can take months, years to get over. I've got one who was abandoned, obviously came from a loving home (was left in the empty apartment, manager chased him into the hall, then luckily called us).
Its been three months and he still gets neurotic when one of us goes to leave. If ,say, I go out, and my wife is here, after a few minutes when I don't come back he starts making a peculiar squealing noise by the door. It's his anxiety at being abandoned again. He HAS gotten better, but still exhibits anxiety and obsessive clinginess.
The best you can do is just pay positive attention to kitty and hopefully in time he'll fee secure in his new home and environment. All that clinging is his desperate, affectionate way of trying to convince YOU not to do what the last owner had to do.
Cats are just like people, sometimes sudden changes can cause lasting emotional damage. It can take months, years to get over. I've got one who was abandoned, obviously came from a loving home (was left in the empty apartment, manager chased him into the hall, then luckily called us).
Its been three months and he still gets neurotic when one of us goes to leave. If ,say, I go out, and my wife is here, after a few minutes when I don't come back he starts making a peculiar squealing noise by the door. It's his anxiety at being abandoned again. He HAS gotten better, but still exhibits anxiety and obsessive clinginess.
The best you can do is just pay positive attention to kitty and hopefully in time he'll fee secure in his new home and environment. All that clinging is his desperate, affectionate way of trying to convince YOU not to do what the last owner had to do.
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