Peeing on my bed

[April2]

I'm sitting here in tears and frustration because for the third time "someone" has peed on my bed. The first time was this last week, then again today. I had just spent the day washing all the bedding (including a mattress cover, sheets, blanket and comforter) and had put it all back on my bed (for the 2nd time this week) just a couple of hours ago and was getting into bed when I felt it, the wetness. I had to strip the bed again and throw it all back down into the laundry room.
I now know it's not the dogs. They were the first ones I blamed but it couldn't have been one of them tonight because they can't jump up on the bed by themselves and this happened before I even got into the bed. So it has to be one of the cats.
What I don't get is why one ot them is peeing and why on my bed! I wouldn't think they'd be able to smell anything lingering as I washed everything and the mattress is waterproof because it's a kingsize air mattress with a cover.

So now that I've got it narrowed down to one of the two cats, is there a way to figure out which one or do I need to take them both to the vet to see if there's a UTI? I hope to God it's not behavioral because I cannot imagine how I would be able to break that and I cannot live with an animal that's going to do that.

I didn't think either one acted stressed to me. They seem to be getting along fine. Is there a way I can figure out which one is doing this and if it's behavioral, how in the world do you break something like that?
I would shut my door but they tend to bang on doors that are closed. Help? :(

[crackerjack4u2]

Hello April, I just seen your post and am so sorry you are having to deal with this.Your story sounds very similar to what happened with me.   I had an older cat at my house years ago, and brought in a younger kitty.  My older cat not only was ticked off that there was a new kid in town, but absolutely refused to use the same litter box as the new kitty did. So as you can imagine, she was ticked at me, and had to pee, and you can guess the first place she headed.  I was able to break this, but it required separating the kitties, and a second litter box.  I agree that regardless of who or why that the other kitty needs to be fixed. If the spaying doesn't help and medical problems are all ruled out this could be a possibility.  

[April2]

She goes in tomorrow to get her shots and they will schedule her for surgery at that time. They said they like to give the shots about a week before surgery.
So, it's moving along!

rainallday, I bought the spray because it was cheaper than the plug-ins but I may consider the plug-ins if the spray doesn't work. Thanks!

[rainallday]

It's stress, and the feliway comfort zone will help immediately, plug it in in the bedroom....It'll last 3-4 weeks, and refills can be found relatively cheap.....
Poor kitty just going where they feel safe...

[LindaTX]

I used to love it too when one would sleep with us, but today we would be up all night.  That's what happens when you enter "The Golden Years"  Even an Ambien doesn't give me a full night's sleep.  My husband can sleep throung anything but he just never has really liked sleeping with the cats ;)

[nancyjac]

April,

This may be more of a behavior issue with your son than his cat.  And you may be the one with all of the stress.  You said a few days ago that you had been begging him to get her spayed and you were going to make the appointment if he doesn't.  You said you told him a few days ago when you went to the vet that you were going to make the appointment and now again if he doesn't this week.  Begging and idle threats aren't working.  Go ahead and make the appointment and get it done.  The vet gave you some common and generic issues that can cause stress in cats but none of them are as common as the stress from a cat in heat and that is going to continue until she is spayed.  Spaying her doesn't guarantee that she will never pee on your bed again, but it does guarantee removing the most likely cause of her behavior.

Linda,

I wish my cats would stay in our bed during the night.  I have one (Chatty) that gets up during the middle of the night and opens and closes cabinet doors quite loudly just for her own amusement...LOL.    

[April2]

The vet said it's behavioral and that it's probably stress from the move, different family and new animals to deal with, but she's been here now over 3 months so I don't know why she'd be just now displaying this. She may very well get stressed when one of the puppies jumps on her, trying to play, but she seemed ok for the most part.
The vet also said spaying her is a good idea, of course, but that it wouldn't change any behavioral issues.
Right now I've been paranoid about keeping the bedroom door shut at all times and even put plastic down on my bed, over the covers, just in case she got in the room! I'm not sleeping too well, either, just from being paranoid that someone will open the door and accidently let her in.


If my son doesn't make that appointment soon to get her fixed, I told him I'm going to, this week.