3 yr old that wont go to bed

[ticked]

I am not sure what I am supposed to do.  My child never wants to sleep. I dont blame her for not wanting to nap at school, but they force her to and I dont like that because when she naps there she doesnt sleep until 10:30pm at night.  latley she keeps saying she wants to sleep with me, but I cant have her sleep with me because she doesnt sleep she goofs around and is restlessor hours and I am tired.  How do I get her to sleep???? I have tried everything, i dont even think that the nanny would be able to get her down

[trinicakes]

If your daughter is goofing around when you let her in your bed it's obvious that she isn't getting enough one-on-one time with you.  My daughter does this every once in awhile and once I spend some good, long quality time with her she lets up a bit.  I know usually any advice helps so that is mine and I hope it helps or at least gives you a start.

[fernessmonster]

I'm having the same problem with my almost three year old daughter. It takes about two hours to get her to sleep. She gets out of bed immediatly. We already have a routine, I read her a book, and sing to her.she gets up almost instantly. She will growl at me, yell at me, and then scream she wants mommy. My eight year old son shares a room with her and I have to tell him to sleep in my bed. I am usually doing this all alone and get frustrated. I'm about to bring the crib back even though she can climb out of it. I'm at a loss of what to do. She also listens to NOTHING I say during the day. No matter what I do. I'm very overwhelmed.

[fernessmonster]

I'm having the same problem with my almost three year old daughter. It takes about two hours to get her to sleep. She gets out of bed immediatly. We already have a routine, I read her a book, and sing to her.she gets up almost instantly. She will growl at me, yell at me, and then scream she wants mommy. My eight year old son shares a room with her and I have to tell him to sleep in my bed. I am usually doing this all alone and get frustrated. I'm about to bring the crib back even though she can climb out of it. I'm at a loss of what to do. She also listens to NOTHING I say during the day. No matter what I do. I'm very overwhelmed.

[fernessmonster]

I'm having the same problem with my almost three year old daughter. It takes about two hours to get her to sleep. She gets out of bed immediatly. We already have a routine, I read her a book, and sing to her.she gets up almost instantly. She will growl at me, yell at me, and then scream she wants mommy. My eight year old son shares a room with her and I have to tell him to sleep in my bed. I am usually doing this all alone and get frustrated. I'm about to bring the crib back even though she can climb out of it. I'm at a loss of what to do. She also listens to NOTHING I say during the day. No matter what I do. I'm very overwhelmed.

[cle1178]

Firstly in my experience, children thrive when given clear boundaries. They like the feeling of security when they know what they can and can not do. In saying that they will regularly test those boundaries to see if they have change. What ever you decide to do, you must do it consistently and with firmness. You are the parent, you are thinking of your child's long term health and benefit!
Bedtime routine is important. half an hour before you wnat lights out, tell child it is time for bed (make it a directive not a question), get their pj's on, teeth cleaned, nappy changed/toilet visited. Read a book on the couch, not on their bed, this means when you finish the book you can say tike for bed and walk with child to their room. Kiss/cuddle, pray, what ever works for you, lights out. One way to teach a child to go/stay in their bed is this:
1st night you sit on the foot of the  bed, no talking. If child sits up etc, you say 'lie down' firmly. The novelty will mean it may be hectic for bit. You sit there til child is asleep.
2nd night you repeat the above but sitting on the floor next to the bed.
Each night move closer to the door as you repeat the process.
You may even have to sit outside the door for a night or two..
This takes time but has a long term benefit.
Some thing to be aware of is that many children have mild sleep disorders... My son was three when my brother became a quad, because I was at the hospital every night for three weeks, he got completely out of routine. My paediatrician prescribed Melatonin (available at the healthfood store) - it is actually a hormone our brain produces that regulates your sleep patterns. My son took half a tablet every night an hour before bed. Within two weeks, he was going to bed as normal and asleep within 10mins.
Maybe a combo of the routine and melatonin might help you??

[sweetme22]

i have a 2 year old son he refuses to sleep no matter what you do.. if i keep putting him in his room he will still cry for hours if i would let him. me and my boyfriend just broke up he used to play the guitar for him in order for him to sleep... i have tried playing music for him in bed.. i have tried everything nothing works.. it's been 4 days and i'm running out of energy lol... what do i do somebody please give me advice. i have tried warm milk as well plus he is a very hyper and temper mentle :) HELP!!