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6 year old daughter confesses everything
My wife and I have a 6 year old daughter and last week she began crying on the way to school and confessing to my wife everything under the sun, such as "the teacher told us to write our name then date but I wrote the date first, I was talking at lunch when I wasn't supposed to" and so on. She never gets in trouble at school, during the resent parent teacher conference her good behavior was highlighted as a strength. But everyday it is the same thing crying while going to school and confessing all night long. We have tried explaining to her that it is good to tell us about things that she thinks is bad but she needs to let stuff go and not linger on small infractions that no one would have known about if she didn't confess. I am in the military and currently deployed I am about half way through this 6 month rotation and believe that this could be a factor in her newly found guilt. What should we do?
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IMO again, the prescription drugs are Not a good answer, especially in kids. She could be very helped with good parental communication, love, support, guidance, and therapy.
Natural stuff like NAC (N-Acetyl Cysteine), Inositol, St. John's Wort, GABA, L-theanine, maybe Relora, are much preferable if medicine must be used. Please trust me on this, prescription meds should be a last resort, imo. And stay away from anything actually n the Benzodiazepine class of drugs, like Xanax +I believe). They are super bad for you (even changing brain composition when using at least some products in the long term),and they turn some people zombie like.
IMO again, the prescription drugs are Not a good answer, especially in kids. She could be very helped with good parental communication, love, support, guidance, and therapy.
Natural stuff like NAC (N-Acetyl Cysteine), Inositol, St. John's Wort, GABA, L-theanine, maybe Relora, are much preferable if medicine must be used. Please trust me on this, prescription meds should be a last resort, imo. And stay away from anything actually n the Benzodiazepine class of drugs, like Xanax +I believe). They are super bad for you (even changing brain composition when using at least some products in the long term),and they turn some people zombie like.
Hi there,
I went through a period when I was a kid where I did the exact same thing. Even as an adult I have similar tendencies.
My confessing was at night. It started after having what was likely my first panic attack, if I recall. It was pretty bad, night after night, crying and confessing any guilty thing.
Long story short, I've got fairly significant OCD and anxiety issues. The OCD impacts, IMO, the confessing. But, IMO again, it will take some work to fix. In me, the guilt came from a really interesting mix of things which are hard to communicate in text.
Basically, I felt guilty about things I'd done because my conscience kicked in big time. But it was obsessive because I couldn't let anything go. I think I was partially pushed to guilt by my first major panic attack and subsequent ocd symptoms, then my guilt and empathy levels skyrocketted, but the guilt and shame hit harder than any feelings in my life. (Strangely, it started after I got scared my mom would die one night, and that I thinking about it would make it happen.) I confessed so I could be forgiven, because I couldn't forgive myself. And I couldn't live with it on my conscience, or being a bad person. But I also was being compulsively honest as a way to seek acceptance, as I felt that I needed to be accepted even at my worst - almost a way to prove if my parents (and later others) truly loved and accepted me.
The way I learned to move on was not until relatively recently. Someone I really trusted basically held me and told me that I deserved forgiveness for it all (after hearing the worst of it), that I need to learn to forgive myself and that forgiving myself is okay, that I'm not a bad person but that I made mistakes (emphasize, imo, she will never be perfect and that's okay, it happens), and that I've really not done anything actually awful. But also, this person whom I trust (the trust is important to break through the obsessive and unreal thinking), told me that this was OCD, that it wasn't real, and that I was engaging in magical thinking (thoughts controlling things they don't, ie that punishing myself or being hyper honest for bad things somehow protects me, or is super relevant). Finally though, I was at some point (I think) told I was plain selfish. That being so sad helped no one and just made others not feel good - that the past wasn't changeable, but that the future was yet to be written, and to start focusing on other people instead of just how bad ai feel. (accusing a 5 year old of being fundamentaly selfish to help her may not work properly at all).
Also, I learned to feel, instead of resist, the emotions. To process them and not be afraid of them (she may resist them as much as possible because they are scary, I find this makes them worse. Then I like to engage in positive self talk, telling myself repeatedly how everything is actually okay, and having faith in that.
In short, it may be best to get her a really good therapist who is well trained in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
And don't let her start believing she has control over things she really doesn't.
Cheers, hope it helped, I write this while sleepy before bed, it's likely not a perfect account of my struggles, but should be helpful I hope.
Mental health problems suck. Help her as much as you can, as soon as you can. And, IMO, still ger her to a therapist even if things Seem better now.
I went through a period when I was a kid where I did the exact same thing. Even as an adult I have similar tendencies.
My confessing was at night. It started after having what was likely my first panic attack, if I recall. It was pretty bad, night after night, crying and confessing any guilty thing.
Long story short, I've got fairly significant OCD and anxiety issues. The OCD impacts, IMO, the confessing. But, IMO again, it will take some work to fix. In me, the guilt came from a really interesting mix of things which are hard to communicate in text.
Basically, I felt guilty about things I'd done because my conscience kicked in big time. But it was obsessive because I couldn't let anything go. I think I was partially pushed to guilt by my first major panic attack and subsequent ocd symptoms, then my guilt and empathy levels skyrocketted, but the guilt and shame hit harder than any feelings in my life. (Strangely, it started after I got scared my mom would die one night, and that I thinking about it would make it happen.) I confessed so I could be forgiven, because I couldn't forgive myself. And I couldn't live with it on my conscience, or being a bad person. But I also was being compulsively honest as a way to seek acceptance, as I felt that I needed to be accepted even at my worst - almost a way to prove if my parents (and later others) truly loved and accepted me.
The way I learned to move on was not until relatively recently. Someone I really trusted basically held me and told me that I deserved forgiveness for it all (after hearing the worst of it), that I need to learn to forgive myself and that forgiving myself is okay, that I'm not a bad person but that I made mistakes (emphasize, imo, she will never be perfect and that's okay, it happens), and that I've really not done anything actually awful. But also, this person whom I trust (the trust is important to break through the obsessive and unreal thinking), told me that this was OCD, that it wasn't real, and that I was engaging in magical thinking (thoughts controlling things they don't, ie that punishing myself or being hyper honest for bad things somehow protects me, or is super relevant). Finally though, I was at some point (I think) told I was plain selfish. That being so sad helped no one and just made others not feel good - that the past wasn't changeable, but that the future was yet to be written, and to start focusing on other people instead of just how bad ai feel. (accusing a 5 year old of being fundamentaly selfish to help her may not work properly at all).
Also, I learned to feel, instead of resist, the emotions. To process them and not be afraid of them (she may resist them as much as possible because they are scary, I find this makes them worse. Then I like to engage in positive self talk, telling myself repeatedly how everything is actually okay, and having faith in that.
In short, it may be best to get her a really good therapist who is well trained in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.
And don't let her start believing she has control over things she really doesn't.
Cheers, hope it helped, I write this while sleepy before bed, it's likely not a perfect account of my struggles, but should be helpful I hope.
Mental health problems suck. Help her as much as you can, as soon as you can. And, IMO, still ger her to a therapist even if things Seem better now.
I was diagnosed with OCD as an adult that I've had since childhood. Though I can't remember myself doing what your daughter does, I can imagine how hard it must be. My OCD is to the point where I also suffer from intrusive thoughts as well as the usual counting and such. Your daughter is fortunate to be so young. The younger to be diagnosed the better. I am on a cocktail of two medications designed to treat my OCD and anxiety as well as stabilize my mood. They are Sertraline (for the OCD) and Divalproex. They can only be obtained via prescription and may or may not be good for children. Be sure to get a proper diagnosis first. I myself suffered no side effects, but I can't say that your daughter won't
hey! so im a 17yr old girl and i remember when i was around your daughter's age i went through a period of time where i did this EXACT thing. i would cry and confess little tiny things i did like this. my mother took me to the doctor and we just came to the conclusion that it was essentially a nervous tic. however, i have anxiety that i was heavily affected by as a child, so your daughter could be experiencing a tic or early symptoms of anxiety. as a child i was also bullied and experienced child-on-child sexual abuse, so it's possible your daughter may be experiencing something like this. try to talk to her one on one and bring her to her doctor to determine what may be going on. best of luck :)
When she is crying on the way to school... she is giving you to know that something bad is happening to her there.
When she is confessing everything but nothing "seems to fit"... she is unable to communicate the underlying reality.
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Where are children most vulnerable and what is the perhaps the most dangerous environment for children? Education systems.
When she cries every day on the way to school... stop taking her there.
Stop taking her there. Period.
And give her time and space to be able to talk to you.
When she is confessing everything but nothing "seems to fit"... she is unable to communicate the underlying reality.
Where do pedophiles work? Ans. Where they can gain access to children apart from parental observation and supervision.
Where are children most vulnerable and what is the perhaps the most dangerous environment for children? Education systems.
When she cries every day on the way to school... stop taking her there.
Stop taking her there. Period.
And give her time and space to be able to talk to you.
You know what no! This is vaccines and diet :( i promise. This is what I do for a living, investigate cases like these
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It's actually not, I promise. The only study ever to link vaccines with neurological disturbances was found to be a multi-million dollar fraud; the lead researcher was paid by lawyers involved in ridiculous "vaccine injury" lawsuits. The paper was withdrawn and the researcher (Andrew Wakefield) permanently lost his medical license. Wakefield's results were irreproduceable, and no other such links have been found since then.
If you make extraordinary claims, be ready to back them up with extraordinary evidence (peer-reviewed, published; YouTube doesn't count). Making your claims without proof is incredibly irresponsible, especially to parents of children in infection-prone places (I.e. school). Please do some proper research, and don't spread dangerous conspiracy theories with no basis in fact. This has prevented countless autistic children from receiving the support they need; and in some cases caused them harm from BS "anti-vaccine/autism" "treatments" (e.g. chelation). Recently where I live, a 2-year-old boy died because his anti-vax parents refused to hospitalize him for meningitis; instead opting to feed him garlic and chili oil. Please stop spewing this crap
If you make extraordinary claims, be ready to back them up with extraordinary evidence (peer-reviewed, published; YouTube doesn't count). Making your claims without proof is incredibly irresponsible, especially to parents of children in infection-prone places (I.e. school). Please do some proper research, and don't spread dangerous conspiracy theories with no basis in fact. This has prevented countless autistic children from receiving the support they need; and in some cases caused them harm from BS "anti-vaccine/autism" "treatments" (e.g. chelation). Recently where I live, a 2-year-old boy died because his anti-vax parents refused to hospitalize him for meningitis; instead opting to feed him garlic and chili oil. Please stop spewing this crap
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