6 yr old behavior problems

[6yroldtroubles]

my youngest turned 6 in August, we had recently moved and have made many new friends. Our closest friends and neighbors have a 14mth old and a 3yr old. I noticed when we first met that they were "spoiled" to say the least. there mother doesnt follow threw with punishment the kids through tantrems all ALL the time, when she does try to punish them they run screaming for her attaching themselves to her leg begging "mommy i want to spend time with you" and they get away with what ever it is they've done. Now I run a pretty strict house hold maybe to strict for some people my children have always been the well behaved kids that people comment on and i am very proud of that, but since we have made friends with our neighbors my 6 yr old has been acting like them!! I am going crazy i have tried to explain to her that we love her the way she is and do not like it when she acts like others we have tried punishment after punishment with to results. She is now getting negative letters home from school stating all the same problems i have. I have a 10yr old as well and today i decided to take them to the bank and open a savings account for them, the teller was taking a little to long and my 6yr old threw a tantrum so horrible I had to leave the bank!!! I was so embarresed in 10yrs of parenting i have never had this problem and wish not to have it again. I would love to remain friends with our neighbors, but have distanced our selves some to see if the problem faded. Please help me

[margypops]

Dont take your children to the Bank unless you have to and then ignore the tantrum I expect the Bank gets a few of them, and also keep the play time with the neighbors down to a minimum as children do copy.