8yr old son jealous of 3yr old sister

[gemrich]

My 8yr old son is so jealous of his sister that it is beginning to drive me mad!!!! He bullies her all the time and always says that we love her more than him and he hates us and we are the worst parents in the world if he doesn't get his own way with anything at all. When we ask him to do a simple job such as pick a few toys up and put them away he frowns at me and replies "my sister never has to do this so why should I?" He compares everything to his sister. I try my best to be fair to both of them but they are both at very VER different stges of their lives. eg she still quite demanding where he can do most basic things for himself. Every day is becoming a constant battle and I would apreciate some tips on this matter if possible.

Thanks
gemrich

[margypops]

If they are her toys why does he have to pick them up actually if you walk in his shoes he may have a point ,it could be some child/parent interaction that needs adjusting, I have actually seen this scenario for myself where the older child has to do things and give up things for the younger one and it does have the effect of making them jealous , next time you want toys picking up why not all join in doing it so he feels as if its just not him.,that is being fair to them both.At 3 year old there are probably a few things she can do for herself , and helping clear up is definatly one of them.Focus on his positive side and praise him when you see him doing something right.