I am sure you are a really good Dad and I do understand your concern,so she is contradictory when she tells them maybe for them to feel better, that she wants them to live with her ? May I ask where your presant wife stands on this issue has she any opinion about it ? does she get on well with the children .
As I have already said, I have offered mid week visits but Mother does not want them. She says she wants to get a job but has not found one in 2 1/2 half years.
My ex-wife says one thing and does another... She is just making the girls feel bad... especially the 9 year old. My heart breaks for them.
yes plain olde mothers love .. the children miss her ,she misses them , maybe they should have more time together ..teddy and blankie are okay also perfume ....
I want what is best for my daughter and all my kids. I understand what you are saying.
I have offered mid week visits but Mother does not want them. She says she wants to get a job but has not found one in 2 1/2 half years. She gave the kids up. It was a bad situation. It was very stressful to live there ( the kids use to live with her) now it is fun time as there is no day to day stress only weekend fun. I think this is confusing at least.
I would still be married to her if she did not leave me for another man. I have moved on and re-married now. I could never do it without my new wife she is a God send.
I'm very confused about your post.
I guess I don't really see what the connection with the bears, blanket and perfume have to do with anything except they smell like her.
The second part of your post is confusing. The "she's" and "they's" get confusing whether you're talking about daughters, mothers or bears and blankets.
It sounds like you're saying one weekend the mother lay in bed with the daughters and cried that she misses the daughters and wants them to come live with her.
I'm not sure this is mind games and manipulation, sounds to me like a mother's love.
The fact that mom loves them very very much, and dad loves them very very much and both want the daughters to live with them primarily will help your daughters tremendously. They may feel a little conflicted where they want to live, but having both parents want them is the best thing in the world for them.
The scars that parents leave on kids by not wanting them are deep. Your daughters are in a good place with both parents fighting for them.