My girlfriends daughter is 9 years old but seems to have some kind of undiagnosed developmental disorder. Her symptoms include: bedwetting every night, and smells like urine during the day sometimes but seems not to notice or care about it, avoiding bowel movements to the point that her stomach becomes distented and there is feces on her underwear. Has poor motor skills, flexibility and balance ie cannot tie shoelaces, cannot ride a bike, has a slow waddling gait. Will rock her head from side to side when tired, has speech problems and does not have the average vocabulary and pronunciation of an 8 year old. Avoids showering, washing her face or brushing her hair. She is also very small for her age, has low self esteem. When scolded she seems to tune out. She is very intelligent and appears to be a normal child aside from all these abnormal things. I would like to get her tested but I wouldnt know where to begin. Mild autism perhaps? I could really use some advice if anyone has had similar problems with their children.