Bad thoughts when angry

[dmc2]

My 8 year old son just told me that when he gets mad, he has "bad thoughts" about whoever is mad at him. This discussion started because I was asking him how he felt when I got mad at him (I was expecting him to say he didn't like it). He had been getting in trouble lately over the same things so I was asking him why it appeared that he wasn't working on correcting his behavior. I asked him if he ever thought about why he was getting in trouble. He said no, he just gets mad back and then has bad thoughts about whoever is upset with him. He would only give me one example...he said the last time I got upset with him, he hoped that someone would break into our house and hurt me. He specifically explained that he didn't really want this to happen and it was really upsetting him. He also explained that it was never him hurting me. He seems troubled by these thoughts and he said he's had them about his sister and dad, too. Is this a normal reaction for an 8 year old boy when he's angry? He's a totally normal, non-aggressive kid in all other aspects. No behavioral issues, he's a good student, and has lots of friends. I was a little shocked by his thoughts. I remember being a kid and having thoughts that would make me worry, like that my parents were going to die or someone was going to break in. I'm just wondering if this is normal and maybe he's just not dealing with anger in a productive manner.    
Any thoughts would help!!!  

[freshparenting]

Help him to express her anger in a healthy way. Tell him that getting angry is normal, but he shouldn't express it in a negative way. Also ask him what made him angry. When he get angry to someone for what that person has done to him, teach him to tell that person about why he got angry to them and what he wants that person to do to make him not angry anymore. By the way, it is true that sometimes tv or people around him also "inspire" him in expressing his anger. So, watch out!

Good Luck

[dmc2]

So, do you think it has anything to do with getting angry? I think he only has these thoughts when he's angry or mad at someone. Is that still normal?
Thanks for you reply. It made me feel better.

[Cindy84]

My daughter talks about break inns all the time recently.  She is 9 and it drives me crazy.  She said recently someone was going to break in and hurt our family.  Since then she has been sleeping with the lights on in her room and  her closet.  I wonder if it's something maybe they seen on tv.   I am sure your son does not want you hurt, no scratch that he definately does not want anything to happen to his mom.  Maybe, like my daughter he is scared about something happening to you or scared of something deeper.   Our kids have very big scary imaginations lately.  Talk to him and try to get a little deeper into why he has these thought.  I bet you will find out somebody at school scared him or he saw something on tv.  Never take it to personal mom.  He is just a kid and he doesnt know the meaning of  what he is saying.