How did it go?
Im in a similar predicament and it hurts.
I agree with Diva, you don't have to do a thing you don't want to. I will say though, that having the opportunity to talk to him and answer your questions (such as why he didn't help when you needed it) might provide some healing for you? Just a thought. But take your time and do what you feel is best for you. You don't owe anyone anything.
Thank you for the response. He has been aksing my mother to tell me for years (based on what she said). I don't know what his intentions are this time, but now he warned her that he will tell me himself. He could do the same thing years ago. I grew up as a very poor child from poor family, all my childhood was a struggle. This guy never helped me or my mother in some way.
You don't have to do anything that you aren't comfortable with. You've lived this long without him, so it wouldn't be bad if you continued to do so. If you want to pursue a friendship with him you can do that too. Why did he make your mom tell you the truth now? Is there something he wants from you or wants to tell you? If you aren't sure about everything you could always get a paternity test.
I wouldn't do anything until you know what you want. Maybe even go talk to a therapist.