FEAR OF DEATH

[matey1982]

iv a 9 year old son whos very smart and clued on. when he gets disiplined for anything he pulls at my heart strings with emotional comments. bear in mind this is only when disiplined. but the other night he was put to bed early by his dad for answering me back and not doing as he was told. he went to bed o.k without a fuss but i cud hear him sobbing. i went into see what was wrong and he said to me he was scared  of dying. i was shocked at this as it was so random and asked what brought this on. he just said i don't want to die. shud i be worried about this? its played on my mind a few days now. hes a generally normal happy lad into football computer games and sports and has friends. he also isnt being bullyed. any ideas anyone????????????????????????

[matey1982]

thank you il give it a go

[margypops]

There you go ..so try doing what he said , it does work... focus on his positive side and praise him when you see him doing something right,children and indeed all of us respond to that ..

[matey1982]

thanx for your comment. funny his dad has said the same to me......... ignore bad behaviour but focus on the good and reward it.

[margypops]

Sounds to me like you have a control battle going on does a 'wee white lie ' warrant going to bed early which is what I assume you mean...less  punishments.. focus on his positive side .....

[matey1982]

thanx for your reply. he hadn't been watching anything he was outside playing with mates. yet again tonight he was misbehaving told me a wee white lie [ which i dont abide] i said ok lets get you to bed again tonight without your t.v or game privelidges. he started... saying to me i feel dizzy  its always someting when hes punished. yet he fell asleep quite quickly. but of course to me he won the battle the night again as i was up and down to him. r u o.k son how do u feel now etc

[matey1982]

thanx for your reply. he hadn't been watching anything he was outside playing with mates. yet again tonight he was misbehaving told me a wee white lie [ which i dont abide] i said ok lets get you to bed again tonight without your t.v or game privelidges. he started... saying to me i feel dizzy  its always someting when hes punished. yet he fell asleep quite quickly. but of course to me he won the battle the night again as i was up and down to him. r u o.k son how do u feel now etc

[margypops]

sorry hit reply too quickly.... so find out why he was thinking of death, what had he been watching on TV or PC and you have to vet both ...

[margypops]

I would say he is upset by more than being sent to bed for not obeying you,it may be a good idea to find out why he was'sobbing'