My 5 yr old son is very out of control

[Gosch5]

I am a mother 3 I have 2 girls and 1 boy. My som who is 5 has a lot of behavioral problems. I took him to see a neurologist who diagnosed him with adhd. I am bipolar and so is my mother in law so I think it is more likely he is too. He is always hitting his sisters, throwing temper tantrums, and kicking, screaming, fighting, you name it he does it. I am at my wits end I have tried spanking time out positive reinforcement everything I can. nothing works I don't know what to do anymore I hate his behavior, but I love him. He can be such a sweetheart but 90 percent of the time he is yelling screaming fighting everything. We have lived in the same place south he was born and always have had a structured environment. I sometimes feel like running away but I know that's not the answer. I love him I just don't know what to do anymore.

[aprilshowers444]

You need to try behavioral therapy. ADHD can be VERY hard on the parents but he needs to learn to control his explosive behavior. I would go to the library or buy a book about ADHD and read up on what he is going through and how to help him. Spanking will not help b/c it is likely that he doesn't know HOW to control these behaviors or HOW to respond in an appropriate manner. Seek therapy (many places can help for very little cost if that is an issue) and read up on how to communicate and help him learn to control his behavior. It isn't easy and takes awhile but my brother had it as a small child and is not he manager at a huge company and is doing very well.

[benjimom]

I know how you feel, I think it's normal to want to run away from discord and bad kid behavior.  Also, keep in mind, he may not be able to help it all the time either esp if he has a disorder.    Did the neurologist provide any medications?  Did they help?  

If he is aggressive himself, I would stay away from the spanking, it can make the aggression worse.  I foudn that with my son.  

Just try to stay calm, if you need to, go into a room and shurt the door and take deep breaths.  Do you ahve any family or friends that can help?  If so, be sure that you can get some breaks.  Are all the kids in school?  How does your boy do in school/daycare?

Keep venting, it's important....  Just know there are others who are having issues too.  You are not alone.