three old claims she was hit in the stomach by a five year old

[Patsyclline]

We invited a neighbor child over for a half hour when my granddaughter was here last week.  Mind you we supervised the whole visit outside while they were playing.   Later on she said that. The girl hit her in the stomach and I said that is not true because we were watching you the whole time.  When parents returned from dinner we were outside and I came in the house the kids were whining a lot meaning they were tired and I was going to lay down for 5 mi utes my granddaughter and her dad were going In The hall way and I heard ouch.  Did not think much of it and five minutes later she came In my room and she had a red circle  on her stomach.  I am so worried that he did something to her and I did not catch him doing it.  The parents are split up due to an affair and the father does not correct the child when something happens at the moment or do anything much to interact with her.  Frankly my daughter does it all.  So when a three year old is going around saying I am being hit in the stonach is she?  I am sick to my stomach. My daughter says she says that all the time and they live in a different state.  What do you think?

[Sandman2]

Wait, I am confused.  The parents are split up and live in different states,but went out to dinner together?   Anyway, your daughter does need to know what happened.  

[Patsyclline]

my daughter bought the tickets before I knew about what happened about the affair she is trying to keep it amicable.   So they were out to dinner that day the little girl came over and that night when they got home to my house  I believe something g happened but did not see it I only heard her say ouch.  I  know if you ask a question to a 3 year old if they have done something they will admit it.  What I don't know is  if a 3 year old  says  things because they have fantasy stuff at this age is she trying to say someone like her dad is doing this. But won't come out and say who? Not sure I wish I would have caught it a few seconds earlier then I would not be on this board asking.

[Patsyclline]

They both live in on the east coast just came to visit and they are far from me I will be going out in oct and will take the 3 year old out to lunch and  talk to her on her level I am hust mortified

[Sandman2]

As a grandparent myself, I understand your fear and concern.   Given the circumstances, I think that all you can do is to report this to your daughter.  When you visit in Oct., just enjoy her.   I would try and see if you can interact with her via face time or something ..... just to keep your relationship up.   Even sharing stuff on facebook or phonecalls.