I need suggestions

[momgoingcrazy89]

My middle child has been throwing temper tantrums since she was 2 now that she is about to turn 6  I've had it. Today she threw a fit in the middle of the store, so I ignored it and walked away (just far enough I could still watch her). The more I ignored her the worse it got, I watch 9 people stop and talk to her and then look at me like I was the worse person in the world. I've tried time out, spankens, taking toy and T.V. nothing works. What should I do now? She's a good girl most of the time but when she trows a fit she really throws a fit!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Any suggestions

[LRM1021]

Have to agree with post above in terms of handling the situation. The most important thing to do to extinguish temper tantrums is to make sure that the child knows that they will not be successful when they have one. The child cannot get ANYTHING that it is asking for/ wanting when having a tantrum -- ever-- no matter what, or the child will learn that the behavior is successful. Your disapproval is not affecting your daughter during these events -- the motivation to ger her way is.  

At the same time I would say this-- you have two other children, so you know what other children at this age are like. You also know that if ALL your children were behaving this way, then maybe its something you are doing. But since its not the case, then if you really think that her behavior is out of the ordinary, then I would talk to your child's doctor about it.

And don't worry about other people staring at you. You did not hurt her, and you did not let her hurt you. That's more important than what anyone else thinks.

[kindred_NY]

I'm wondering why you did not leave the store? That behavior in absolutely unacceptable. I would have loudly stated. " If you can't behave in the store,  then you may not be here! " and walked out, holding her by the hand or carrying her if necessary. ( At that point mine would " die of embarrassment" ) There would be swift punishment at home then. A good long talk about acceptable behavior and removing her favorite items until she can behave.