My 9 year old daughter recently started a new school. She was scared and cried alot the first few days. She began taking items such as my necklace or picture of me with her to school. The fourth day or so, she got hysterical and Im three weeks into it and the hysteria/anxiety is worse. She clings to me, begs me not to leave, screams, runs after the car and Im at my wits end She has never acted this way. One day she seemed very ill so I let her stay home and then she was fine, playing with her toys and laughing . My husband feels is control/manipulation. Im at a loss. She is very bright and probably too close to me, I have two teens that i HOMEschool and a 20 month old. I wonder if she feels left out by having to go to school or if this is something more serious. We have tried rewards for going to class with no tantrums, herbal remediesn such as calming tea, talking and addressing her fears, the teacher has assigned really nice kids she refuses to talk to or play with them. Now ive taken away her privillege of coming home for lunch until she can go to class without the screaming and crying. I dont know what to do. She is fine once school is over, laughing and telling me about her day and Im stuck with a bad headache all day and feeling sick at starting each day this way.This morning I started yelling at her in front of the classroom and a parent took her from me and marched her in the classroom becuz i was about to lose it.
Please help