My 4 year old

[ninadaw]

My son is 4 years old and just started in a new preschool in September.  He was having alittle trouble adjusting to school.  The teacher says that he was aggressive in the beginning (pulling toys away, hands on, pushing, not listening). Now she says he is getting better but some days he comes in very excited and it is very hard to calm him down.  He is not trying to hurt anyone and really wants to make friends.  I have been working with him to try to help him understand what is the right way to behave around other kids but it is not easy for him.  I was wondering if these things are normal at this age or should I go seek help.

[tiredbuthappy]

a lot of times kids who get really excited have a certain kind of activity that helps calm and center them. Some kids respond well to music- you can try different kinds of calmer music on the way to school. Many excitable kids respond really well to sensory activities. A lot of times water play, sand play, fingerpainting, or shaving cream in the morning can help focus them for the day.

[babygirl6152]

I think you have responded perfectly- the best momma I have for a preschool student is a child that is one of our biggest challenges. He didn't sit still for story time, he ran away from me, He would not nap. He would not sit still for snack or meals. We brainstormed thru it all and mom went so far as to work with him at home at the same exact times on OUR schedule/ routine which was above and beyond anything I would have ever asked her to do since we only have her child Tuesday + Thursday..

She sat a card table up for snack and meal time and worked with him sitting still. She started reading with him more (and encouraging him to do more than just turn the pages, which was all he was interested in doing.) She even changed his naptime to coincide with ours..... It's so nice to have moms that care to work towards the same goals. You sound like a wonderful mom with an adorable child. I am sure it will continue to improve....

[Natta1980]

well - nothing wrong with  being too excited about things, I wish more people were this way:) It is normal indeed:)

[margypops]

Sounds like you are handling well as you have seen and also the teacher some improvement , I do believe that some children are like this normally at this age and it does get better and they quieten down.

[jdtm]

No, you probably do not need help.  After all, this is only the early part of November - just keep reinforcing the correct way for your son to act and react.  It does take a lot of time and work.  I wish you the best ....