My 5 year old daughter has behavior problems in school.

[2kidznmom]

My daughter is 5 years old, she is in kindergarten.  She comes home every day with conduct marks in her folder.  She does not follow directions, rolling around on the floor, does not stop talking after she has been told to stop, slapping another child, spitting at another child, pulling another childs hair, head butting a child three times in front of the teacher, kicking, grabbing another childs privite area, scribling in another childs writing folder.  What do I do I talk to her.  I take her favorite things away from her I even took her bedroom away from her.  

[deeyana]

You might want to request a Functional Behavior Analysis or a Behavior Intervention Plan. This is when a behavior analysis at district level  or Child Study Team gets together with the teacher to come up with a positive motivational plan for the child. They will meet together and brain storm ideas about once every week or so until they find something that will help the child improve his behavior. The plan focuses on positive reinforcements and incentives not punishing or taking things away. In my experience and opinion, teachers are not always eager of FBA or BIP because it take up a lot of their time. But if you feel it is something that needs to be done, then you need to push.You can also request that they come up with a plan that will breakdown the day by subject to subject and have the teacher Write down on your copy of the log the behaviors in question and when they occur. This will give you a better idea over time of when  or why the behaviors are occurring. When my ds was 6 the behaviors only occurred when writing was involved. We later found that he was SLD in writing. This log help me understand what I needed to test him for.He's behaviors were a manifestation of his disability.  

[Natta1980]

Hi

I am a firm beleiver that every behavior serves a purpose, in children, adults, and animals as well:)

Hence, it is important to look for the function of this behavior.

The only problem with this approach is that, while it is impossible to control her behavior, only manage, you cannot manage your child's behavior in the classroom because you are not physically there. What do they do at school when these things occur? What do you do at home if these things occur? It should be the same types of consequence.

Ask school to track what causes these behaviors, i.e. what is setting her off, and also what her day is like, and how much structure they have in that classroom. And what exactly does it mean - does not follow directions - all directions, or directions related to a particular subject (i.e. does not follow directions on a playgroud, in art center, etc.)

(for my son with sensory issues, he tends to be very grumpy and used to do all the similar behaviors around 4 y.o. when it was getting too loud and haotic in his classroom)

Behaviors were extunguished through removing him from the area into a 'quiet zone', ignoring his tantrum, and then talking to him after he is calm.

If teacher herself is not able to adequately analyze her behavior, there is nothing wrong with brining a behavior specialist (hired privately, or obtained through school for free) and letting her analyze her behavior and then come up with the management plan for a teacher and you (if you experience similar concerns at home, also it does not sound like it)

Give her bedroom back to her - it may even make things worse - her bedroom is her world and it seems too harsh of a consequence for me. Taking things away will not work for this age. Consequence shoud happen immediately when she misbehaves.

And call the teacher and talk to her - they very much appreciate a feedback as to how to deal with your child, trust me:) I wrote down all the things that can set him off, likes and dislikes for mine, and they are very grateful! We, together, celebrate his improvement, and work on setbacks. Communicate as much as possible:) Good luck